I've been married so long (39 years) that my memory is a little fuzzy, but I don't recall the priest who married us asking us any questions about our living arrangements or sexual activity. I don't think you need to volunteer any information that isn't specifically asked, but I wouldn't lie, either.
It is a common question now. Most diocese require that it is asked.
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We lived together before we were married. I recall that the Priest asked about it and indicated that it wasn't a big deal. He did reccoment (NOT require or order) that we refrain from sexual activity for the remainder of our engagement after one of our sessions until our wedding night, to make it a bit more special.
We did as he sugggested. I can't say that it improved any part of our relationship as he suggested it would, but it didn't kill us.
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Ok were going to talk to the priest tomarrow, and were both really nervous, biggest problem is we live together, have you ever heard of a priest not marry a couple because they live together?
I really have a problem with lieing and i know a lof of my friends who have lied to the priest and said they wern't but im not going to do that, i will tell him the truth im just worried he will refuse to marry us.
I think every couple should read this before they consider getting into a relationship.
I wish you the best....
Congrats!
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Ironford, please report back after your meeting with the Priest. I'm sure you'll have seen that your worries were unfounded, that he was a pleasant man, and that rather than see you suffer for your choices, he'd like to see your weddding go off without a hitch. He may not like approve of the fact that you're living together or sexually active prior to marriage, but there wouldn't be very many marriages in our Church if we excluded all those who fall victim to these temptations. Your love has in the past and maybe is still now being expressed in a way the Church doesn't aprove of, but you're seeking to make that right. Very few modern Priests would fault you for that.
Oh, and Congrats! What an exciting time in the life of you and your bride to be!!!
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2/3's of the stars will be swept out of the sky by the dragon's tail.
Is that the number of priests i wonder?
Secular law [and disposable relationships] that do not coincide with God's Laws shouldnt be celebrated...
Just saying.
I am not above the issue - but i can ascertain that the article is based on stats.
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However, if you show repentance and ask the priest for help, then I am sure he would be willing to work with you. It is best to be honest. If you lie, he can tell, and it will only compound the problem.
My prayers for you and your future bride.
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From a personal standpoint, I would say that I think it would be a WISE decision to choose to live separately until marriage.
When my husband and I met with the priest before we got married, he actually did ask us if we were living together. We weren't and he mentioned that the church did not have a no cohabitation policy, yet he would have advised for us to live separately anyway. A priest can't necessarily bar you from getting married, but instead may point you to resources to send you to the right direction and have you think a little more about the decisions you make.
I lived with my parents while I was engaged. It wasn't fun, but after we got married I was so thankful that we chose to wait to have sex and live together until after marriage. We seriously did consider at a couple points during our relationship about whether or not we should move in together. Then we decided, after discussing at length, that it would not be a Christian or holy thing to do.
Your fiance can live with her parents, which will still be economical and it seems that she also lives close by. Please be honest! I think lying to the priest would be even worse than feeling bad about living together!
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