The title of this thread pretty much sums up my problem. My husband is not saved and he lost interest in me when I got saved. He has lost all interest in me sexually and he is often intolerant of me.
I'm not perfect, I try not to nag him. I also try to do what the bible says and win him over without words by being a good wife. The problem is that the more I try to serve him, the more he treats me like a doormat.
I know that he loves what the world loves (and the world prefers worldly women over Godly women). He says that he still loves me and he is still a good friend to me, but I feel so unloved and sexually unattractive. I'm a romantic person and I really miss the romance that we had.
What do you do/not do now that you did do before when he wanted sex from you? You don't have to tell us but that is where you might want to do something, or not.
__________________ "give me a kiss to build a dream on and my imagination will thrive upon that kiss... sweetheart I ask no more than this... a kiss to build a dream on"
Well I'm pretty much the same in that department as I was when we married, but I accept that it could be due to normal marriage boredom on his part. But he lost interest in me almost overnight so that is unlikely to be the reason. Thank you for asking the question. It's got me thinking about changes that I could make.
I think the main problem is that he just doesn't like me anymore and I'm not sure that there is a cure for that.
men get jealous when their wives follow Jesus, all of a sudden they are in competition with someone they can't even see and it's a huge adjustment for him because he will see you differently now than he did before, even though that's not necessarily the case in your mind..it's scary for an unsaved partner cos they are suddenly more aware of their own wrongdoing or even think that you are more aware of their wrongdoing, there's a whole new dynamic to live in for him
__________________ Sincerity and truth are what you require; fill my mind with your wisdom Psalms 51:6 (GNB)
There is no reason for men to get jealous ovber Jesus. Just be sure and not create a reason. You say you try not to nag him...what do you mean? About your faith? or in general? I have to assume you meant about the faith, because the other would have been same before and after I guess...and seems not to have been a problem.
The thing that will make men jealous is more things that make them feel that you are seeing yourself and others closer to a standard that is perfection than him....IOW that husband is lacking much in the morals and faith dept., and it indeed challenges him. Its tough, but being non judgemental as possible (obviously not agreeing to porn use and stuff) about small things is helpful.
__________________ Sure hope this is relevant and not plagiarism.
[quote=Conservativation;53412088]There is no reason for men to get jealous ovber Jesus. not when you're saved...to a man that's not saved it's a real threat, here's someone taking HIS wifes attentions and affections and he cant even fight him off...Cons you can argue all you want with me but i've heard testimonies of MEN whose wives were saved first and this is EXACTLY what they said.
__________________ Sincerity and truth are what you require; fill my mind with your wisdom Psalms 51:6 (GNB)
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