Before the "I Do".
Was not looking for relationship was set on going to law school, that was planned since the day I could remember and that there was no way I was fallen for anyone.
My hubby and I were friends first and that grew into a relationship which lead to marriage eventually. So school was no longer in the plans. One thing learned before, during, until this day. I pray alot and rely on God for a lot of things reguarding myself and family. When you love someone that does not mean things are going to be perfect he/ she is not perfect do not put them there. Learn there is a give and take factor in marriage you have things that will annoy and fustrate each other, that's okay that is part of getting along how you cope with the situation at hand. Marriage takes three God, your spouse and obviously you to make it work. They're are times you'll wonder what was I thinking. Then there is a moment when you may mess up and think what was he/she thinking. Then he/she will do something that reminds you why you chose each other for this journey. The more you put into a marriage the more you get out of it. Remember love grows each day and each year and you have a wonderfully delightful journey of spending that time with someone you love and enjoy that is the largest part of who you are.
Also to know you have been very blessed.
But what do I know, 25 years plus of marriage.
Dougy I hope this helps answer the question.
The before thing is ask yourself this can you imagine your life without this person think about it if the answer is no then you say yes.
If you can imagine your life without this person sadly the answer to the I do should be no. But that is my take on it.
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I knew that I had found the love of my life. I knew that God would give me the grace to love her every day no matter what, and I knew that the love that he had given me for my wife to be was a love that would last forever.
Two years later I have found that love has continued to grow... but it is something that does require both work and grace... it happens by choice and it is something I will continue to choose all the days of my life...
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For me it was coming to the conclusion that I was prepared to say "This is the last person that I will ever have sex with - and forever shut down the potential for developing that type of relationship".
In order for me to say "yes" to that question - I had to be happy in all areas of my life with her where I would never look back on that decision with regret. The wonderful thing about being single is that the world is open to you in every single aspect. If you're not happy with someone for any reason that resonates with you - you leave them...and shortly thereafter you can cultivate new possibilities. Marriage (short of failure and divorce) forever shuts those options down...so you'd better be darn sure you're happy with that person with no second thoughts.
That was the biggest thing on my mind before being prepared to ask.
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