I'm writing a paper on homosexuals adopting. It's a paper more about the discourse on it and not my personal opinion so I would like to hear your views on this subject.
Thank you very much for all that post their views
Last edited by glittereve; 28th October 2009 at 04:39 AM.
I think it is an area that raises it's own unique questions. Come to think of it the biggest question is very similar to those that are raised with the very very wealthy adapting. E.g. making sure they really want a child as opposed to a showitem.
At the most this is an additional 10% of questions. The vast majority of questions about fitness of parents apply to all those who might adapt.
I know many gay men well enough to say that IF they chose to adapt they would be excellent parents. For the ones I have in mind the question is if they so chose, it would not be a decision they would take lightly.
Just to let others know I will not post your username in my paper, nor will I quote you without asking you first. I'm just here to get some general views and opinions from everyone.
I'm writing a paper on homosexual adoption. It's a paper more about the discourse on it and not my personal opinion so I would like to hear your views on this subject.
Thank you very much for all that post their views
Whilst I very much would like to see the standards for parenting (and this, of course, includes adopting parents) raised, I don´t think that the sexual orientation of the parents (natural or adopting) is of any significance for their parenting abilities.
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I fully agree.
I did a research paper on Gay adoption some years ago and what I found was that often time’s gays who adopt were willing to take children that are deemed hard to place, older kids, non-white, children with aids, crack babies, and children with special needs. etc That is not to say I think gays should only be stuck with special needs kids. I do think it says they just want to be parents and give a home, love and stability to a child(ren) that truly needs it.
I know Rosie O several years ago was working with a gay couple back when Florida did not allow Gay adoption but allowed them to be foster parents. I remember the gay couple had this little boy since he was an infant it was possible he might have Aids virus. Well what a shock no one wanted this little boy when they thought he might have the aids virus. Yet this Gay couple loved this child aids or no aids. It turned out he did not have the virus to give him to a straight couple who wouldn’t have wanted him had he had this diseases of no fault of his own (through the biological mother) imo is just wrong.
There are a lot of children in this world that are in the foster care system (waiting child) or in an orphanage. This kids need at least one loving parent and home that is going to give them stability if someone can give that I dont think their sexual orientation should be a factor.
For those who oppose Gays adoption are this people going to go out and adopt a few kids that need homes? In most cases they are not. According to Dave Thomas foundation of the roughly 510,000 kids in foster care, roughly 129,000 of them are available for adoptions. About 1 out of 5 children who are available to be adopted will age out of the system (at 18) with out having been adopted.
As I understand it, all prospective adoptive parents, whether married, single, or partnered, have to undergo extensive home visits and studies and get references and recommendations.
If there is a shortage of adoptive homes and a surplus of children available for adoption (including hard-to-place children) then I think it is our duty as a society to allow all those who pass the home studies to adopt. Where a potential parent is single or part of a gay partnership, the home study should see how the applicants plan on providing loving role models who are of a different sex than the parents.
As in interracial adoptions, where white families are asked whether they will help their child to establish his/her racial identity through their own interracial friendships and community relationships, gay applicants should be asked whether they have a network of heterosexual friends who will help their child, if straight (and the odds are likely that he/she will be), to feel that sense of cultural identity as well.
Gay adoptive parents and single unattached adoptive parents may not be "ideal" but they are certainly more ideal than insecure years spent in foster care.
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1. There is no reliable research to suggest that being raised by gay parents is a developmental handicap. I've been quoted statistics before that say that teenagers or children of gay parents experience more depression and mental anxiety than children of straight parents. On it's own, that statement means very little other than being a teenager sucks and having society treat you like crap for having minority parents adds to it. Everything we can put together, both from solid research and anecdotal information suggests that it's the quality of the parenting that is of utmost importance, not the number or gender of parents.
2. We dont prohibit single parents from raising children, instead we tend to praise and support single parents as a society. This indicated that we, as a society, dont actually have a problem with single-gender parenting. If we did, then we would prohibit single parents from being parents. This suggests we have more of a problem with the gay part than we do about lacking in one gender or another.
3. With 1 and 2 in mind, we can extrapolate that the prohibition of gay people adopting is not based off of logical conclusions or concerns and can be safely discarded.
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