Dreams, Dreams Go Away

So, recently I've had this problem with a friend. I used to really like this friend but I don't anymore after something he did. He's apologized about it but we really don't talk much anymore. So far we haven't talked in over two weeks.

He's done a pretty good amount of emotional damage to me this past year (especially these past two months), and I've been trying to accept his apology and move on so that I won't keep thinking about him and what he did anymore. He got a girlfriend recently so I don't know if we don't talk anymore because of that or because this problem has simply just brought our friendship to an end...
Either way, I keep having dreams about him. He's been in nearly every dream I've had for the past month, and in every dream it's just about the same situation: He's being nice to me and trying to be friends again. He's smiling every single time; but I'm still mad at him in my dream, yet at the same time wishing we could still be friends. I don't know if I keep having these dreams because I've been mad at him, missing being friends with him, have forgiven him but am too scared to tell him, still have things to say to him but am too scared to tell him, or because I'm very concerned about his spiritual walk (especially since he has a new temptation in his life that he calls his "girlfriend"). He's a baby Christian but he's stopped coming to church ever since he started dating that girl. And it sounds like he wants to move in with her even though they've only been together for a month and a half.

There was one dream where he raped me.
Another dream he wanted to go on a walk with me, yet I questioned if it was because he really wanted to or just because he wanted something from me.
Another dream he apologized to me about everything and gave me a hug.
Another dream he stood up in church smiling and called on me to pray in front of the church.
Another dream I found out my sister was talking to him on facebook and she said he lied to me about something he told her.

And those are just a few of the dreams I've had within the past month...

Talking to him about the problem always just depresses me for the week, so I'm trying not to talk to him or think about him. But I still keep having all these dreams and they're driving me crazy.

I don't know what else to say to him and I don't think he knows what else to say to me either, so is trying to get "closure" again necessary or should I just wait till these dreams just go away?

I've prayed for him, I've prayed for me, but I really don't know what to do to make these dreams just go away. I'd either rather be friends with him again or just close the friendship off, but I don't know which one to do or if either one will even make these dreams stop.

It's a stupid problem, I know; but I really don't know what do to make this all just leave me alone.

Do any of those dreams mean anything???

(And I'm sorry this was so long.)

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"No wonder you're so short, you've been carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders!" ~ D.F.

Obviously you have deep feelings for this person. First, it's difficult to have a one on one relationship with someone of the opposite sex without running the risk of emotional sexual desire resulting.

I like to go camping and go to movies but, I wouldn't ask a friend who was a woman who I am attracted to, to do either with me alone. Nor would I go to their house or invite them to mine alone. It could easily create emotional physical ties and complications.

Sounds like your dreams are the natural result of your desire for friendship and remorse over the loss you suffered.

I encourage you to tell God just how you feel, spill your guts, confessing anything inappropriate for cleansing. Then make a conscious decision not to see this person on a one on one basis any longer. I'm assuming you did have a one on one relationship at least in part.

Once you've made a decision commit to it and pray for God's help. I'm not promising it will go away (the emotions and remorse) immediately but it will pass and so will the dreams IMO.

Exercise your faith in God by thanking him for his wisdom, counsel and directions. In addition thank Him for the resolution to this situation. Remember, God is your loving father and as such he's very concerned about your relationships.

PEACE
JWN

I think the dreams may mean something, but it sounds like what you really need to do is stop thinking about the guy. He seems to be like a vampire in your life.

Such people, it is usually best to forget about them and move on until you are stronger and in a better place in your life.

Forgetting generally requires two steps: a back and a front... that is, consciously avoiding thinking about him, putting away the thoughts when they come up... and secondarily, having a replacement, or many replacements. New hobbies, new television shows perhaps, new friends.

You say in your post that you are trying not to think or talk about this guy. Understandably, you'd really like this situation to more or less solve itself, even though it doesn't seem all that likely.
When you try to push conflicts like this out of your concious, waking mind, they often surface in dreams. Whether yours are just coming from your unconcious, or from God working through your unconcious, the message is clear: you need to get some sort of closure.
Who is there in your life whom you can trust? Someone with a good dose of wisdom and who will keep things confidential? Whether it's a pastor, counsellor, older relative or friend, you need to share your story more fully with someone who will help you decide - not decide for you - whether to try to reestablish a friendship or to close the relationship off.
As you start to deal with this problem, to actively seek a solution, I think you'll find the dreams become less and less and, when they occur, to be at least a little helpful, not just annoying and painful.
Best wishes.