Challenged in Dating

I'd say your doing find by not dating.

Tell people you want to learn to live on your own before you make a commitment to another marriage relationship. O a modification of this is that you have somethings you need to do on your own before you start dating again.

dayhiker

I can sympathize with how you feel, I am similar in that when I am committed to someone, I don't know how to give all of me. I don't want to ever go through that kind of misery again, but eventually there has to come a point to where the satisfaction that you feel with not dating is really just some type of pseudo-coping mechanism to shield yourself from pain. I hate rushing into things as well, and it can be very deceptive when you meet someone and everything just "clicks", sometimes I have handled this well, and other times, not so well.

What would probably be perfect for you is a single's group at a church that has good fellowship and activities where you could just have some fun. Hopefully you can find one without any kind of dating pressure. There is always a chance that some "friend" you meet in that type of situation might turn out to be something more.
I never met anyone at my single's group, but I really enjoyed the fellowship. I did a lot of dating after my divorce and had a lot of disappointment and heartbreak. About 8 months ago after some more disappointment and some unbelievable lies I was done with online dating and ready to just have some friends and put my husband search on hold. I reconnected with an online friend so I could do some motorcycle rides and my friend became my fiance. No heartbreak, questions, drama between us or arguments. Unbelievable.

Originally Posted by ShainaBrina

2 Tim 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

Rom 8:15 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, "Abba, Father."

We must hold every thought captive and reject thoughts that are from the enemy and/or not in line with the Word. The bible tells us not to be afraid or worry about the future. So having fear is a bad thing - sin even.

Sometimes being afraid takes healing from God.
He comes to heal.

It is okay to wait on God for complete healing and rest and pour your heart out to Him.

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The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
Luke 18
1And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint

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And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;

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Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me hath everlasting life.

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As it is written, Behold, I lay in Sion a stumblingstone and rock of offence: and whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.
John 15
5I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.
7If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.