A friend who went back to her unequally yoked/abusive relationship?! Please help

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For reasons we don't fully understand some people will go right back into bad situations and relationships. Probably one major reason is the inner dysfunction for whatever reasons that lie behind the original choices. Until these are addressed the continue to push a person back into old ways.

Offer what advice you can. Pray for her and with her if she will allow that. But, recognise she is living her own life, and you cannot force her to accept your advice. Be there whenever she comes, but you must ensure that you don't allow your compassion to blind you to reality. It's never nice watching someone yu care for self destruct, but that can happen. We do learn from experience and become wiser, but hopefully not more cynical or willing to reach out to needy people.

John
NZ

I agree with Johnnz and I'd like to offer the following prayer... Praise to you, Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, source of all consolation and hope. By your Son's death and His ascension into the Heavens, He remains our light in every darkness, our strength in every weakness. Father please be the refuge and Guardian of all who suffer from abuse and violence. Comfort them and send healing for their body, soul and spirit. Heal the brokenness in all victims of abuse and revive the spirits of all who endure this sin. Make us one with You in Your love as we deepen our respect for the dignity of every human life. Giver of strength, courage and peace, pour Your Spirit upon us all to become all You've created us to be. In Jesus' precious name. Amen.

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She has blocked your calls and all contact with you. That is God's way of showing you that it is not your place to comfort her, encourage her, or convince her of anything. You have to let it go up to Him. He used you in her life at a time when she was receptive. Now, for reasons that are not for you to know, he has allowed her to go back to her ex. She will learn these lessons the hard way and in God's time. As much as it hurts to know that she is harming herself, there is just nothing you can do about it.

I sympathize with both you and with this girl. I know how hard it is to watch someone you love make bad decisions and have no control over it. It is EXTREMELY painful to let someone go, but they are better off if we don't interfere with God's work. However, I also know what it's like to be in a similar situation to hers. It seems crazy to you, but dysfunctional relationships can be the hardest ones to get out of because you are constantly in a battle of head versus heart. And even harder if you have mental instability such as bipolar disorder.

All you can do for this girl is pray for her. And that's the biggest thing of all. You have made a positive impact on her, whether you can see it right now or not. And now God is going to use you for something else. Don't distract yourself from his plan while you are hung up on this. (and I know all this is easier said than done.)

Praying for you both!!

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