Browneyes, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I went through that in my marriage and we are coming out of it, but I know it's painful and hard.
I should hasten to say that I didn't post this pessimistically but because my wife and I are experience a rejuvenation of intimacy between us and I am not paranoid but I also don't want to become complacent. Things that I assumed were 'just how it is' are being questioned a lot more. I'm trying to love my wife like she's part of me, and trying to understand her better.
I should hasten to say that I didn't post this pessimistically but because my wife and I are experience a rejuvenation of intimacy between us and I am not paranoid but I also don't want to become complacent. Things that I assumed were 'just how it is' are being questioned a lot more. I'm trying to love my wife like she's part of me, and trying to understand her better.
Good for youYou're doing a great job, and I sincerely hope you see great rewards for your efforts in your marriage.
__________________ Sincerity and truth are what you require; fill my mind with your wisdom Psalms 51:6 (GNB)
Very confusing issue came up with my wife. I asked her to read to me an email she had said earlier felt very critical to her. I listened to her, and then commented that while I could see that it might be taken as criticism that it was actually quite constructive and was probably not meant to be offensive. She utterly clammed up. After a long while of trying to get her to talk she said that she didn't know what I had wanted her to say.
After all this time I still have moments where I don't think I understand her--or any woman for that matter--at all.
Any time people are communicating there can be problems. Believe me, my wife and I have had plenty. Our first languages are not the same, and while she is at basic English level, I know almost none of her native tongue.
You're doing a great job, and I sincerely hope you see great rewards for your efforts in your marriage. 
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