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cover ups, the being too embarrassed to talk about it, or the peer pressure to ignore it

Surely this isnt serious. If anything there is massive pressure to confess something, to claim an abuse, an afront....there are literally folks marching in the streets John to get folks to "tell"....Im just wondering where you get these ideas.

I will step back a little based on your forst sentence,that sadly men can have these things in the past as well. Thats not what I was on about anyway, by far women are far more frequently victims of sexual assault and abuse....no doubt, no comparison....I take issue with using that to then paint men generally as A. worst case barely able to control ourselves, or B. totally oblivious to this horror in our midst, like we are oblivious or something.

I agree with b.hopeful. While I think it is important to work though the emotional damage that abuse brings, I do not see this as a safe place to work though said abuse. There is just too much trolling and insensitive people.

Yesterday I was talking to one of my clients. It was our first meeting and he told me he was abused when he was a child. For me to be told this in a first meeting was quite...unexpected. With some them you know from their behaviour (often get a change to observe for longer time as I work in a residential setting), some will tell you after a good few meetings, some will never share.
People are very different in their needs when it comes to that. Some people are VERY open, would tell anyone, wanting people to understand why their current life is such a mess because of what was done to them when they were young.
We will see it here also. John might feel that he really WANTS to share here and now.
I would personally agree also that a forum is quite an unsafe tool to do so because of our knowledge that 'all kinds of people' have access to it. While for some people it might be good because it is relatively anon, others have such a history on here that they know a lot of people with whom they are not ready to share.
I am sure there were no bad intentions here at all.
Topics like this can just cause a lot of hurt and distress..I think we should all be very cautious around that.

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Originally Posted by Autumnleaf

Who wants to remember some painful incident and relive every detail of it right here for our anonymous perusal of it? Step right up! Be the first.....!

Agree. I would never discuss this on any forum.Just me.