Unequally yoked

Hi, my name is Nicolette, I'm 19 this year and I come from Singapore.

The reason why I decided to turn to a Christian forum is not because I have no one to talk to in real life. It's because I already know what they will tell me and my Christian brothers and sisters in Christ aren't that supportive...

My problem is common and simple...

I'm a Christian who is currently dating a Non Christian... He is 24, very stable. Has a job and all... He treats me well, very sincere, caring etc etc.

I do not wish to end the relationship because I know it will hurt him and myself as well. We have cried a few times over this matter, and it was because of that, that I am convinced he is serious about me. He's not a playboy. He's like the boy next door very simple.

I do not want people to judge me based on my "unequally" yoked relationship.... I just wish my brothers and sisters in Christ could be happy for me that I found someone who can take care of me... But I guess their not happy because of the fact that he's not Christian.... And wouldn't be able to take care of me the Christian way...

Sigh..... School is starting soon and I don't want to bring this problem into my last semester in school....

Sigh... Please pray for me....

So you won't talk to them because they'll tell you the truth? Being with a non-believer is clearly spoken against in the Bible so what do you expect your friends to tell you? Honestly, my opinion is that if he treats you well and respects you and your beliefs then it's not exactly the end of the world..but it could end up putting a huge strain on your relationship, not only with him, but with God also.

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Oh yeah I also meant to ask if he's an Atheist or if he's just not a born again Christian..that could make a big difference? Is he at least open to the idea of Christianity?

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Atheists r teh uber evil.

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"If you can approach the world’s complexities, both its glories and its horrors, with an attitude of humble curiosity, acknowledging that however deeply you have seen, you have only just scratched the surface, you will find worlds within worlds, beauties you could not heretofore imagine, and your own mundane preoccupations will shrink to proper size, not all that important in the greater scheme of things."
Daniel Dennett (Breaking the Spell: Religion as Natural Phenomenon)

If you're happy with the relationship, then its none of their business.

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I didn't mean athiests were evil..that's not at all my opinion. I just think that if she's dating an athiest he may oppose her beliefs and it will cause more arguments than if he's just simply not a Christian but is open to the idea. Like I said above, in either case, as long as he's good to her I really don't see why it's such a big deal.

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Be with who you love, not with who other people tell you to be with. It is no ones business but yours. If it's not putting a strain on your relationship now, I doubt it will in the future.
Don't listen to what anyone say's, question everything (even me if you so choose), but make the decision for yourself, not for anyone else.

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"When work seems overwhelming, remember that you are going to die"
Strangely enough this motivates me.

No one will judge you. And they do, they're not even worth knowing.

Alot of non Christian advice here. Anyway, I was in the same situation before I went to school. Missionary dating doesn't work, and ends in pain for both members of the relationship. Trust me when I say end it, sooner rather than later. I let mine continue much longer than I should have and the hurt still lingers, 2 years later.

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To be fair, it's not a racist comment at all. A Christian and a non-believer (especially an atheist) have a different value basis, so a relationship would be understandably harder to maintain.

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"If you can approach the world’s complexities, both its glories and its horrors, with an attitude of humble curiosity, acknowledging that however deeply you have seen, you have only just scratched the surface, you will find worlds within worlds, beauties you could not heretofore imagine, and your own mundane preoccupations will shrink to proper size, not all that important in the greater scheme of things."
Daniel Dennett (Breaking the Spell: Religion as Natural Phenomenon)