honestly a guys v-card status is not high on my list of concerns when looking at a potential relationship. If he still thought it was okay to have sex outside of marriage then he wouldn't be the guy for me.
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Definitely. I believe sex is for marriage but I wouldn't only fish in that pond, no one's perfect in that regard, & to limit oneself to that would be a bit unrealistic.
I think that you wouldn't want to be with a girl who didn't understand and accept your past. Personally, I would and have accepted that in boyfriends-- but as others have said, everyone is different.
Best of luck!
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I am a 20 year old guy. I am christian but unfortunately human as well. I have had sex with a girlfriend and I guess my fear is that the type of girls I am interested in would not be able to overlook my past mistakes and turn me down. Girls, would you be able to forgive and overlook a guy if you loved him but found out he was not a virgin?
I never was a virgin, at least not that I remember (yeah, one of those childhoods) so where would it put me, if being a virgin was something that couldn't be overlooked?
Don't sweat it. Settle your accounts with God and consider that the condition of your heart is FAR mor important to Him than adherence to the Law. Either take this girlfriend and continue to treat her as your wife or lay your sin at the foot of the cross, and don't lay with another woman until you do find the one you want to take as your wife.
I am a 20 year old guy. I am christian but unfortunately human as well. I have had sex with a girlfriend and I guess my fear is that the type of girls I am interested in would not be able to overlook my past mistakes and turn me down. Girls, would you be able to forgive and overlook a guy if you loved him but found out he was not a virgin?
I suppose it depends on what type of girl you are looking for. If she were a woman after God's heart, she'd know that if God can redeem a prostitute and she be the mother of the lineage of the Messiah, who on earth is she to think she is deserving of something 'better'?
Forgive it? I wouldn't have dated you if you hadn't had sex I dated a virgin once, and it was way too complicated.
I don't mean to pick a bone here, but the in the world is that supposed to mean? I don't think that kind of statement is trying to help the OP move past mistakes...
My husband was not a virgin and I still loved him all the same. When it comes down to it, you need to be willing to be repentant and that's what matters. I guess I was "sheltered" or a goody-goody compared to lots of other people because I haven't made certain mistakes, but I've learned that others may make mistakes and we are called to forgive. My husband has told me plenty of times that he wished he had waited, and to me that showed that he learned from his mistake. That was enough for me.
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Maybe the proper expectation is that we should hold high standards for ourselves and pray for others in their struggles? I don't think you can just "expect" anything from others when you yourself have not done the same. Know what I mean?
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I think you have to look at it from the opposite perspective. Though you should forgive and forget, and I know that will eventually happen, you must realize how that could feel. I was a virgin when I found my wife and she was not. In fact she had been with many men. She has asked forgiveness from God and that's all that matters. That didn't make it any easier for me to overlook though. It was a struggle for me to get over it at first but I began to accept it because its life.
I learned you can't judge someone because of their past. Though I had never had sex, I had done my share of "shady" things and she forgave me and looked beyond it.
So basically, be encouraged, it's not going to be an easy road but there is someone for you. They will accept you for who you are and where you came from.
I dated a virgin once, and it was way too complicated. 
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