Girls, would you be able to overlook this?

I think if I truly loved him that I could. We all have imperfections and things we have done that maybe we regret. If God can forgive the person then we really should be able to do the same and follow his example.

How would you feel if the girl you feel in love/ planned to marry was not a virgin? In this world today you’re (anyone) more likely to end up with a spouse who has already been sexual active like you have been. Today it is a rarity to find couple that is getting married where one of them is a virgin on their wedding night let alone two.

I will be honest that I plan on saving myself for marriage. I however am not naïve because I know that the chance of me ending up with a man that has not been sexual active already is extremely small. I would not hold that against him if that is the man that God wants me to be with. I would expect his past and forgive him for it.

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Brother, I know how you feel, and how you're probably concerned how it'll effect you. I too went through the same thing, and am now undergoing discipline from God because of my choices. Its difficult, being disciplined, and yet learning to praise Him in the midst of all the struggles presented to you. As you fill yourself with Him, and He pours Himself into you, you will find that He restores you, be it slow or fast, He will restore you to how He wants you to be.

It is His choice as to whether or not you get married(although more than likely you will get married), and He will teach forgiveness to you in a way you could not imagine, as the woman who becomes your wife shows you His forgiveness through her own life.

Just one thing: you can either tell her what you did, and God will show you forgiveness; or you can hide it from her, and hide in shame. Its rather clear what the choice should be.

I'll be praying for you, brother.

~B.Wanderer

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I was a virgin who married a virgin. I would forgive, but how easily I "forgot" would depend on him. If you are open and honest about it and respect the girl you are with and her wishes I'm sure most women would let it bother them for just a little while if at all. I think waiting until you are married to do it again would be the best option, because not having a messy past has made our marriage much, much easier.

Ive made that mistake also dont feel bad.

Yes I would, because I've had the same past. Everyone has made mistakes. But God will forgive us.

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For we do not have a high priest who
is unable to sympathize with our
weaknesses, but we have one who
has been tempted in every way, just
as we are - yet was without sin.
Hebrews 4:15

Who am I to judge? If you have confessed and repented, gained forgiveness from God, I have no right to hold a person's past against them. If the man is who God intends for me to be with, I can accept that man's past and he should be able to accept my past as well.

I was a virgin when I got married at 19 who married a guy like you. He had only 'slept' with one girl. We are both christains, we met at church. I have to tell you sometimes it's hard for me because I'm not the prettiest after having two kids. But he reassures me that I am the love his life and any exgirlfriend means nothing to him.

I actully consider myself very blessed that my husband was only with one girl. It's very rare now a days. Not everyone is saved from birth. (LOL) We all make mistakes, if the girl with whom you want to marry can't accept that, there was a time when you weren't right with God, she is in the wrong not you.

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im a sinner as well but getting my second chance at life. there are plenty of people out there in the same type of situation. As long as you have repented God has forgiven and forgotten and as long as you live your life to do his will by the best of your ability he will send you someone and she will accept the fact that you are human, and quite possibly she has also been in that position before

Hey there dude! good question

I am not sure how many girls out there are like this, but my boyfriend (whom I plan on marrying) is also not a virgin (he made a mistake in the past too) and I am a virgin still (saving my purity til marriage for sure) yet when he told me he wasnt I didn't love him any less, and forgave him. But I believe love is a choice in addition to finding the "right one" as well. I believe God directs us to choose to love whom He gives us regardless of past mistakes. And the fact that he realizes what he did was wrong in God's sight..it also helps alot with the girl accepting the fact a guy isnt' a virgin anymore. All people have temptations, another reason I can understand my bf's past is i struggle with sexual temptation from time to time again as well, and I look at myself and ask "what would i have done in the same situation?" and the awnser is always uncertain, due to I understand that struggle. So In short a girl may not be able to explicitly overlook it, if she is forgiving and loving in the way God is, then it shouldnt' be a barrier to her loving you as it dosent affect my love for my guy. anyways keep holding out for the one God will send to love you and for you to love..as I am confident you'll find her (or she'll find you) remember also past is past and what matters is present and future!

stay strong bro, and God Bless

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Yes, absolutely!

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