I have posted about the "spiritual" differences we have, it is well documented.
But certain things have been going on for years with no sign of change. It makes me un-easy, depressed and me stating "whats the point".
Yesterday, I decided to remove almost the last remaining items from the house and take them to my mums where I stay during the week.
This "thing" has caused me to do this.
Its as though I can't move the relationship on any further. I have bitten my lip and sucked it in, but seriously enoughs, enough. It ain't working, and the change ain't coming. Whether its habit, a blind spot, can't be bothered enough etc. (I can't say for sure). But I have spoken about it and it's bigger than I imagined.
As a person, my wife is loyal and genuine. But as for living with her, its's making me feel ill. If I challenge, it gets worse, or goes away and comes back stronger.
You don't need to know what this is.
Is DIVORCE so bad ?
I would appreciate some answers, because it has come to this now.
i know it's a dumb idea, and you may well have tried these routes already, but have you spoke to both your pastor AND her's. If yes, have you considered independant help such as 'relate'.
What do your kids think about the whole issue?
Steve
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Blessed is the one coming in the name of ha’shem - בּרוּךְ הַבָּא בְּשֵׁם יְיָ
Now to Him who is able to keep you from falling..... be glory, majesty, dominion and authority for ever. (Jude) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I have posted about the "spiritual" differences we have, it is well documented.
But certain things have been going on for years with no sign of change. It makes me un-easy, depressed and me stating "whats the point".
Yesterday, I decided to remove almost the last remaining items from the house and take them to my mums where I stay during the week.
This "thing" has caused me to do this.
Its as though I can't move the relationship on any further. I have bitten my lip and sucked it in, but seriously enoughs, enough. It ain't working, and the change ain't coming. Whether its habit, a blind spot, can't be bothered enough etc. (I can't say for sure). But I have spoken about it and it's bigger than I imagined.
As a person, my wife is loyal and genuine. But as for living with her, its's making me feel ill. If I challenge, it gets worse, or goes away and comes back stronger.
You don't need to know what this is.
Is DIVORCE so bad ?
I would appreciate some answers, because it has come to this now.
cheers
My friend
Please PM me if you'd like to talk about this. I've been through a lot in life, including the valley of the shadow of death. I'd be happy to offer suggestions, in private...
i know it's a dumb idea, and you may well have tried these routes already, but have you spoke to both your pastor AND her's. If yes, have you considered independant help such as 'relate'.
What do your kids think about the whole issue?
Steve
I have suggested some things to her. I think when she gets the "papers" she might well react. I'll have to wait & see. She has tended to avoid all outside help before.
As for the kids - I told them straight. They knew it was coming, they have taken it quite well. They are good kids, we are very blessed in that area.
Please PM me if you'd like to talk about this. I've been through a lot in life, including the valley of the shadow of death. I'd be happy to offer suggestions, in private...
Sorry it’s come to this. Biblically speaking, I only know of two ways to be separated, unbelief and unequal yoking. But I don’t live in a box. I know that we, as believers, do not always make the wise and just decision. More often than not we do miss the mark and sin most likely, even though Paul tells us that if we are married, do not seek divorce (1 Cor 7:27).
That said, my marriage has been saved twice through the words in Ephesians 5:25-28. We are called to give ourselves to our wives as Jesus gave Himself to His Church. Twice I’ve had to ask myself, if the roles were changed, would Jesus leave me in this circumstance or not.
In the end, its come down to knowing if she leaves me, then that is her choice, but my choice is to be a minister for her, even if there is no payoff and it takes my whole lifetime. After all, what worth is a single lifetime? Nothing. It’s a vapor and I have infinite lifetimes ahead of me.
__________________ And you, being dead in your sins and the uncircumcision of your flesh, hath he quickened together with him, having forgiven you all trespasses; Blotting out the handwriting of ordinances that was against us, which was contrary to us, and took it out of the way, nailing it to his cross; And having spoiled principalities and powers, he made a shew of them openly, triumphing over them in it.
Sorry it’s come to this. Biblically speaking, I only know of two ways to be separated, unbelief and unequal yoking. But I don’t live in a box. I know that we, as believers, do not always make the wise and just decision. More often than not we do miss the mark and sin most likely, even though Paul tells us that if we are married, do not seek divorce (1 Cor 7:27).
That said, my marriage has been saved twice through the words in Ephesians 5:25-28. We are called to give ourselves to our wives as Jesus gave Himself to His Church. Twice I’ve had to ask myself, if the roles were changed, would Jesus leave me in this circumstance or not.
In the end, its come down to knowing if she leaves me, then that is her choice, but my choice is to be a minister for her, even if there is no payoff and it takes my whole lifetime. After all, what worth is a single lifetime? Nothing. It’s a vapor and I have infinite lifetimes ahead of me.
But the LAST place to seek advice is an Internet forum. These are highly personal and sensitive issues. We can do you no justice without hearing both sides of the issue. Even then, I don't believe there is anyone here trained as a mRriage conselor.
You should seek immediate professional help. At some point your wife should join you, finishing with the whole family going through a restoration process. But it should start with you
Gods very best in the restoration of you're marriage
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Not quite. When you die, your body dies. It is not "healed". It "dies". Your spirit lives on for eternity, but your body is not "ultimately healed". It is dead.
But the LAST place to seek advice is an Internet forum. These are highly personal and sensitive issues. We can do you no justice without hearing both sides of the issue. Even then, I don't believe there is anyone here trained as a mRriage conselor.
You should seek immediate professional help. At some point your wife should join you, finishing with the whole family going through a restoration process. But it should start with you
Gods very best in the restoration of you're marriage
Soooo sorry Mr. Happy - you are certainly in my thoughts and prayers. Wise advice to not take any advice from the forum, you need professional help at this point for everyone's protection and especially the children.
I appreciate your prayers 
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