Wife is not affectionate and I'm starting to lose interest in her...
I've realized I'm not the problem all the time so I feel better about myself. Uh oh. Other women are starting to look good and they are casting me glances. The temptation is starting to take hold.
Trying to make my wife happy has been like herding cats. I've accepted myself wholly for who I am and make no apologies to anyone for how God made me. I can't remember the last time I've felt so genuine, and it feels very good.
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Next challenge - move your wife into this new found freedom. Making her happy should be a side effect not an objective. You know that, how are you going to implement that knowledge?
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Crime is contagious. If the government becomes a lawbreaker, it breeds contempt for law; it invites every man to become a law unto himself; it invites anarchy .” Olmstead v. U.S., 277 U.S. 438
Next challenge - move your wife into this new found freedom. Making her happy should be a side effect not an objective. You know that, how are you going to implement that knowledge?
You are right as usual. When a man makes a woman his focus he becomes less of a man. Time to focus on the purpose, center, instead of 'chasing the bull'.
__________________ "give me a kiss to build a dream on and my imagination will thrive upon that kiss... sweetheart I ask no more than this... a kiss to build a dream on"
Coughing.....excuse me! I think! What of the hidden things inside of you? As believers, will you be found guiltless when it comes to calling good evil and evil good car sales man?! In these last days we would most certainly view conversations like yours which reveal the true person you are because it comes out of your heart. Last days are here as in the evil days of Noah. Evil was rampant, as we can't hardly tell the difference from the church ways of living than the world's fallen sick ways. Wickedness of men is great in the earth now and every imagination of the thoughts of the heart {as in what you wrote here} are of evil towards your wife. It appears it's not a big deal to you cause you know how great you are as a fallen man. There is no question we are living in days of evil and not many people really care unless something devastating takes place within their personal life.
Woe to them! And God will have the final say as always.
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Er, okay, what are you talking about, Jenniferkat?
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Crime is contagious. If the government becomes a lawbreaker, it breeds contempt for law; it invites every man to become a law unto himself; it invites anarchy .” Olmstead v. U.S., 277 U.S. 438
Yeah, what are you talking about? If you're being judgmental towards AL, we're warned against THAT, by the way. You don't know anything about what he's gone through and what his circumstances are, so let's show a bit of compassion and support here, eh?
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You are everything I never knew I always wanted.....
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there. If i take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me. Psalm 139:7-10
I've realized I'm not the problem all the time so I feel better about myself. Uh oh. Other women are starting to look good and they are casting me glances. The temptation is starting to take hold.
When I am tempted to entertain fantasies about other men (for me, it happens during sex), I take the thoughts captive to obedience to Christ. I immediately pray, confess to God that I am tempted, and ask for His help. The thoughts are immediately expelled and I can "be in the moment" and focus on my husband.
You have a responsibility to rebuke, renounce, and fight warfare against adulterous thoughts. GOD will help you with this, empower you, IF you seek Him.
4The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world.
On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.
5We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God,
and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
2 Cor 10
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That's very good advice. But what if a person is in a very long term situation where the spouse will not respond? I'm not arguing with you, just wondering how he could deal with this long term when there's no hope for things to change, like EVER?
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You are everything I never knew I always wanted.....
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there. If i take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me. Psalm 139:7-10
That's very good advice. But what if a person is in a very long term situation where the spouse will not respond? I'm not arguing with you, just wondering how he could deal with this long term when there's no hope for things to change, like EVER?
Nothing justifies sin. Nothing.
Where does hope come from?
3Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings,
because we know that suffering produces perseverance;
4perseverance, character;
and character, hope.
5And hope does not disappoint us,
because God has poured out his love into our hearts
by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. Rom 5
I used to meditate on the passage and wonder why God thought I needed quite so much character building? I think autumnleaf is in the pipeline to hope, but he is going through the precursors. If one drops the ball on "character", they won't get to "hope".
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What of the hidden things inside of you? As believers, will you be found guiltless when it comes to calling good evil and evil good car sales man?! In these last days we would most certainly view conversations like yours which reveal the true person you are because it comes out of your heart. Last days are here as in the evil days of Noah. Evil was rampant, as we can't hardly tell the difference from the church ways of living than the world's fallen sick ways. Wickedness of men is great in the earth now and every imagination of the thoughts of the heart {as in what you wrote here} are of evil towards your wife. It appears it's not a big deal to you cause you know how great you are as a fallen man. There is no question we are living in days of evil and not many people really care unless something devastating takes place within their personal life. 
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