Wife is not affectionate and I'm starting to lose interest in her...

This is unbiblical and unrealistic advice, it is also counter to human physiology. Your going to have to do better than that. The bible states that if you burn with passion you are to marry.

If that is not how we are designed then its not how we are designed, just becasue Paul did that does not mean thats what the rest of us are to do, the bible even states that if you burn with passion you are to marry. I still disagree with your premiss, I do not think a wife has the privilage to have a husband if she can not perform basic marital duties and she has defrauded him.

The only things I know to suggest are prayer and Christian counseling for help on how to deal with the emotions of not having one's needs met in a marriage..I'm not a professional in this area...I just know that, just because someone doesn't know what the right thing to do is, it doesn't make the wrong thing justified or acceptable in God's eyes.

I disagree, there are couples where this problem persists until one of them dies, that is a very sad state of existance and not at all what God expects. Either you are a enunch or your not. This advice still goes no where and the bible says in 1 cor 7 you will stumble as this is not how God has designed 99% of males.

You see thats the problem, you want to tell people what to do but offer no alternative practical solution. This is the same issue the church has, you are trying to write it off with the same tired arguement of pray about it and go to couseling and thoes things dont always work. Folding your arms and saying well I guess you will be a enuch then does not cut it with people and you will destroy relationships.

Yes, some marriages, many in fact, are not happy because of situations like this. And no, this is not what God wants for us in marriage. God only wants good for us. But God knows that we live in a world with bad things in it, so actually, he does expect us to come across painful circumstances, including in our marriage.

Men (and women) do not stumble because God created us a certain way. We are created in the image of God; He didn't screw up in us. We stumble because Satan throws temptation at us and we give in. God says that yes, we will sin, because we aren't perfect,. and sexual sins tend to be hard to resist for many.

Correct me if i'm wrong, but it comes across as you're trying to justify lustful actions/thoughts toward women that are not his wife. Sin is sin is sin, no matter what leads to it. There is absolutely NO justification for sin, there is NEVER a circumstance in which sin is "OK" or acceptable in God's eyes.

I did offer practical solutions; prayer and counseling. Please don't accuse me or assume anything about me. My husband and I struggle hugely because of his porn addiction and high sex drive, and my total lack of sex drive. However, I know my limitations in expertise, and therefore, I can admit that I don't know all the answers. Which is why I recommend for him to seek help from someone who CAN help.

I don't know how to fix the situation. But I do know that doing something sinful isn't what God wants, just because "nothing has worked yet." And prayer always works. Maybe not in the timing we want, or in the way we want. But Jesus promises us, seek and you shall find, ask and you shall receive. I'm not trying to write this off at all. Sex is crucial in marriage, and I can't imagine how unloved he must feel. But sin is never the answer.

Also, I'm not telling him what to do..I'm pointing out what GOD told him to do/not do. If you don't agree with it, maybe go to Him about and argue your case With the creator.

And for the record, I never said anything about being a eunuch.

I dont think its a matter of God screwing up its a matter of the church screwing up in its inturpretation/context of NT scripture regarding divorce and remariage. God does not call us to a life time with a partner who defrauds us and I dont beleive thats what he meant in mathew when the pharisies were heckling him. Never the less this concept creates a divided chruch, one where thoes with happy marriages fold their arms and point the finger at thoes in unhappy marriages that are getting out (divorce)....isent that kind of what the pharisies did?

I feel very sorry for your husband, the sex is more important than you could imagine, dont let this go until he decides he wants out, im sure he already wants out and is there purely because of the guilt trips the chruch and you put on him or the fear of child support and loosing half his assets, he probably feels extremely trapped and scared right now and I would be very surprised if he wants anything to do with you because of the situation he is in and you will have to answer to God for what you are putting him through, I dont know what becomes of ones salvation if you are engaging in unrepentant sin (which is what you are doing), that is probably a discussion for another thread. You never said anything about being a eunuch but thats the only conclusion if one were to follow your logic, and that is not acceptable to most men.

The prospects of child support alone are probably enough to keep him from divorcing you but it would not suprise me if he emotionally withdrew from you and the church and prayed to be taken out of this world early and after time may start making choices to expedite that process or may wait until your last kid is 18 to serve you with papers (I know a couple that that happened to and he did it on his daughers 18th birthday and not a day later, so that is a very real possibility) or he may just take his chances and divorce you now in the hopes that he can find a woman that deserves the security of marriage (ie does not defraud her husband in any way shape or form and gives him what ever whenever). You are playing with fire.