When one person doesn't feel their spirit is being fed.
My friend E brought something up the other day when I was telling her about my church and I had no idea how to respond to her, so I thought I might try and post here.
Her and her husband currently attend one of the local churches. She says that she doesn't feel that her spirit is being fed there, that it's not for her. But she continues to go there because her husband does feel at home there and because she said it would be weird for them to go to separate churches. Knowing her personality as well as I do, I think she would feel much more happy in my church. Not because it's the church I attend, but because she is an artist and my church is all about creative worship using the arts. I've invited her to come to my church and she said she was worried about attending because "what if" she likes it better than the church she's at now.
What's your opinion...
Can a husband and wife attend different churches if they are at different places spiritually or they feel connected spiritually at different places of worship? FWIW, the churches in question (mine and theirs) are both non-denominational so there wouldn't be a clash with different denoms.
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IMO, you've done all you can do by offering the invitation. The rest is between your friend and her husband. Some couples are able to attend different churches or rotate between them, so possibly something like this would work for them, but it's up to them to decide how to experiment or compromise.
This may sound weird, but I believe that it's her husband's responsibility to ensure that she has every opportunity to grow in Christ. If necessary, he is called upon to make sacrifices in order to make this happen.
Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her.
It's a decision that requires both parties, you can go to separate churches but I think it causes wounds that will show up later in life. I hope it works out!
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While as a rule of thumb it is best for couples to attend church together, I do believe there are many cases where it is better for them to attend separate churches. However, this must be entirely the couple's decision.
It sounds like you've invited your friend to your church but she's reluctant to attend a different church than her husband. Unless she brings it up again, it would seem best to let it go and respect her decision.
It is best to approach the husband with the invitation for both of them.
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My friend E brought something up the other day when I was telling her about my church and I had no idea how to respond to her, so I thought I might try and post here.
Her and her husband currently attend one of the local churches. She says that she doesn't feel that her spirit is being fed there, that it's not for her. But she continues to go there because her husband does feel at home there and because she said it would be weird for them to go to separate churches. Knowing her personality as well as I do, I think she would feel much more happy in my church. Not because it's the church I attend, but because she is an artist and my church is all about creative worship using the arts. I've invited her to come to my church and she said she was worried about attending because "what if" she likes it better than the church she's at now.
What's your opinion...
Can a husband and wife attend different churches if they are at different places spiritually or they feel connected spiritually at different places of worship? FWIW, the churches in question (mine and theirs) are both non-denominational so there wouldn't be a clash with different denoms.
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I would say attending two different churchs could work, but idealy, they would find a church they both can get something out of.
Originally Posted by CantateDomino
This may sound weird, but I believe that it's her husband's responsibility to ensure that she has every opportunity to grow in Christ. If necessary, he is called upon to make sacrifices in order to make this happen.
Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her.
I don't think the husband should have to give up his faith for her, just as she shouldn't give up hers for him.
I think the best idea would be to rotate between Churches. Not on any sort of regular, rigid schedule, but to loosely split 50-50. I think it is important that they not be separated entirely in their Churches... But I think they should realize that they enjoy different styles of worship, so they should indulge each other by being willing to attend their spouse's preferred Church every other week, or something.
Yes, I personally think rotating between Churches is the way to go here
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