grief, sadness, trust in God

Hi,

I've been gone awhile and decided to come back because I have a couple of questions (and hope someone can help me with an answer.....thanks). I am finally going through a grief period and feeling sad for a lost childhood and marriage due to abuse. I am also just taking that leap of faith in believing in God's power and grace (well, I'm on the edge of the cliff looking down).

I was just wondering how others overcame the sadness, grief, and fear. I realize that trusting God would help. All the words in the bible say God loves me. I just need that block of doubt torn down.

So if anyone has suggestions (other than "be positive and stop being negative" which doesn't help), I'd sure like to hear it.

Thanks,

lifewanderer

The bible is actully filled with your answer. As time goes on and you seek God more and more, you'll see more and more healing and restoration in your life. The bible says that 'if we seek, we shall find' and 'when we knock, the door will be opened'.

That is a journey and does take time, but it's the most rewarding journey anyone could go on because it's a journey into love itself.

I agree with bluelime2. And also would like to say that forgiving the people who caused pain doesn't mean what they did was right or it was your fault. But you are choosing to forgive so you no longer have to carry it anymore. This gives it over to God. Writing in your journal, attending a support group, or working with a counselor helps to work through this. I personally found freedom in this after carrying a huge pain for many many years. After forgiving the people, I finally found peace and comfort of knowing God is in control of that situation in my life now.

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I so agree with the journalling part. And I would encourage you to get a life recovery bible and just start reading though it and talking over with God what you read. The journalling part is also where you can put your thought on paper as you talk with God.

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Gone, as I choose.

Thank you for all of your ideas.

Thanks,

I've actually forgiven and don't dwell on old stuff anymore....new stuff, yes, but not the old stuff. I'm just getting really sad. I guess it's part of grieving. I've been told it's a natural process. I'm also questioning many things and finally realized that God and I have a relationship. I don't need anyone else to tell me what God says.......God and I can talk directly. I guess that's the start of that leap of faith.

Thanks for listening and not judging. I needed that.

Some sense of loss can remain until the grave. Death of a beloved child is one example. What we do is learn to live life with Jesus, to go on experiencing the many good things within God's creation, and not to allow some circumstances of our life to totally dominate the rest of it. Often, the pain of a real loss makes us far more compassionate and understanding of others too.

God's overall goal for our lives is to be conformed to Jesus. Our Heavenly Father and Jesus through the Holy Spirit will always work within the circumstances of our lives to keep us on that course. So, God can work within a wrong turn or some bad experience and continue on with changing us by incorporating those hard times into His ongoing and loving purpose.

John
NZ

Thank you Johnnz for giving me some hope. I've been given a lot lately by people and God and I appreciate it more than anyone can imagine.

Thank you.

I would just say that I can identify with grieving for a lost childhood. I am still waiting for that healing from God.

HI,

Healing from past trauma and pain is not something that happens in a moment. Most often it is a process of recognising what you felt and came to believe about life and yourself at the time and still feel at times and allowing Jesus to begin a step by step transformation. That process can involve counsel, therapy, support and insightful biblical teaching.

John
NZ