The Married Christian mentality

This is a generalization. I realize you aren't all like this (and neither am I) but I do come across way too many Christians like this, and it's really frustrating. Anyone else know what I'm talking about? :

So many Christians out there, once they get married, put out the "I'm afraid of the opposite sex" vibe. I know there needs to be respect for your spouse, but I really don't get the extreme. Where basically I'd talk to the husband for a bit, and he'd have a creeped out uncomfortable vibe like "shouldn't you be with the other women?" Sorry, I talk to PEOPLE. I'm not a vixen, here to steal you away. I just hate that "stay in your cage" mentality, where the women have to flock together, and the men have to flock together, and it's weird if you talk to someone elses husband, and vice versa (a man talking to someone elses wife). They even can't look at me normally, like "my wife is gonna kill me if I LOOK at her... I'm sinning oh no!" I think it's rude! Look at someone when they're talking to you, and give them some respect. (for the record, I'm normal looking, not a monster LOL)

I remember this one specific time, I was with the women, and all they wanted to do was gossip. So I came and hung out with the men, they were all laughing and having fun. (I sat with my husband... not that that even matters, I'm not hitting on anyone ) and I was asked by one of the men "why aren't you with the women, what are they talking about?" and I didn't want to bash their wives and say "oh they're dripping in gossip, I need a shower" LOL... so I just said "Oh I don't know, just wanted to come inside." It really made me upset inside, like "women over there, men over here."

And then this other time (sorry with my examples, I just figured some of you could relate LOL) I was talking to my married female friend, and the topic of this couple came up and how they were doing, and she noticed that I only had the husband on my Facebook friends list, but not the wife. She was all shocked "you have A on your list but not his wife?!" Firstly I tried to add her by sending her a message, but she doesn't have the add as friend option so that's up to her. Second, does it really truly matter? These comments just floor me.

So why DO married Christians do this? I don't notice this at all in the non Christian circles. It's so weird. And no, I don't spend all evening talking to other womens husbands, I just make my rounds around people. It's all random, whoever's by me.

Are these people insecure? Afraid of sinning? Or sexist? Or do they have immature jealous spouses that don't let them talk to others? I'm really confused. And I can see this as another stumbling block for non Christians to turn away from "weird" Christianity. It really is weird behaviour. Any one else notice this?

Yeah, you know, i agree... i think that you might as be real...

i know exactly what you mean... i notice what guys think i'm hot in public by them looking away or down until i'm done passing by... and my husband has learned (not completely though) to not check out other women when i'm watching...

but you know what... just because you chose not to look at the opposite gender... doesn't mean that you don't have desires in your heart or feel attracted... and just because you put both spouses on facebook/myspace doesn't necessarily mean that you have a close bond with both..

i think a lot of ppl try to control themselves and these things to be faithful and what not... but true adultery starts in the heart... changing the outside around you doesn't change the inside... sometimes it might help to curb a temptation... but i'm ready to start being real....

telling your spouse not to flirt doesn't change their flirtatious nature... i think we need to stop trying to control...

here's another one i notice... and with myself included....

stating "i love this person.. but" "If i WERE to get a divorce i would.... (but i don't want a divorce..)

i think we say these things just to look righteous and maybe even convince ourselves...

ppl sayng "i have a great marriage" "i have the greatest spouse ever" then two months later they are divorced..

it's all because ppl are afraid i believe...

i'm starting to realize that..