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DNA testing a toothbrush

I feel ridiculous even considering this. I read this forum often and know there are lots of you out there with sound advice on this. Last fall when my husband and I were having marital problems I found a pink toothbrush in his shaving bag. ( He works away from home) He claims it came in pack of two and one happened to be pink. I had actually forgot about it till the other day when I found it in my linen closet. I knew it was there....had just forgotten about it. Anyway....I found it again, happened to look at it and it is used....by whom is my question. I can have it DNA tested to find out if it was only used by my husband. I want to but realize it would only make me feel worse if the results were not in my husbands favor. Can anyone talk me out of this???
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Old 21st August 2009, 05:07 AM
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Have it tested. You don't believe your husbands explanation and it's playing on your mind enough for you to ask others about it. At least that way you will know for sure. If it comes back innocent, you can forget the whole thing and know that your husband is trustworthy in what he says. If it comes back as someone elses, then at least you will know that he's not being honest with you and you can decide how to deal with that should it be the outcome.
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Old 21st August 2009, 05:08 AM
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why buy a pack of two anyway? that wouldnt make sense to me...if i were buying myself a toothbrush while away i'd only buy 1??
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Whoa! There are lots of reasons why someione might by a two pack of toothbrushes:

that's all the store sold (remember, he's traveling on business)
it was cheaper, and he figured he's use it eventually
the brand he liked only came in 2 packs

for starters.

Throw the toothbrush away.
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all good points, but it's better to eliminate suspicion than ignore it.
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If is is eating you up inside go for it. But do be sure to, if it comes back with just him on it, to let him know how you were feeling. Sometimes your gut is right, sometimes wrong. But however it comes out, do not confront (if someone else's DNA is on there) or tell him of how you felt (if it's just him) when it is just you two. Do it in front of a christian counselor so there will be 1. A witness, and 2. Someone to help direct the conversation and healing that will have to go on.
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1. A huge percentage of men are to some degree color vision impaired. A huge percetage of men don't care too much about what color hygeine products are.

2. You can only test to see if he used it. If it comes back as someone else, you won't know if it was a prostitute or his buddy Tom that he went drinking with and Tom crashed in the same hotel room so he wouldn't get a DUI on the way home.

3. DNA from a toothbrush? The "skin of your teeth" isn't really literal. A toothbrush used for months maybe might pick some gum tissue up, but a toothbrush used once or twice it is doubtful it'll have a useful sample on it. Think about it, you rinse your toothbrush after you use it right? It isn't like a hairbrush that tends to collect sample.

4. If he is up to no good, when you confronted him about the toothbrush the first time, you essentially told him he needs to clean the evidence. If he is remotely cautious he has probably boiled the brush and then used it himself.

My conclusion is that the pink toothbrush is tainted evidence at best. Too little, too late. If you are going to catch your husband in something, you should focus on something that actually might lead to some conclusion.
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IF you test this toothbrush, and it comes back his, or even inconclusive....know this, lacking anything else, and by something else I mean something other than this very easily explained thing (I always buy 2 toothbrushes, mine come in 2's and I change every couple months)....I suggest you face an uncomfortable fact....maybe you have a suspicion or jealousy issue you need to deal with. Then you need to deal with it.

This cuts 2 ways. IF he did something, he faces it. If he didnt YOU face it. Just tossing it and feeling relieved will not stop you the next time he is 5 minutes late or something thinking the worst.

I say all this with no background other than this post...so forgive me if there is a long chain of freaky coincidences and ladies undergarments in his briefcase and such
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As a Christian I feel like getting the toothbrush tested is wrong and I should trust try to trust my husband again. I haven't thrown it away yet though.
Things are going okay with my husband and I now I hate to put yet another dent in our marriage by dragging all this up again.
I am growing to resent him for all the lies he has told me.
Thank you to those who responded, very interesting points from everyone.
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As a Christian I feel like getting the toothbrush tested is wrong and I should trust try to trust my husband again. I haven't thrown it away yet though.
Things are going okay with my husband and I now I hate to put yet another dent in our marriage by dragging all this up again.
I am growing to resent him for all the lies he has told me.
Thank you to those who responded, very interesting points from everyone.
are you unable to discuss your feelings with him?
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