My parents just got a divorce recently i'm still trying to get used to it but now whenever something makes me mad i get real angry which has never happened before this situation i'm in now. What do i do?
You need to find someone you can talk to and figure out where this anger comes from. You are allowed to be angry, and it would be very natural to be angry in this situation, but anger can be destructive and harm you.
You might turn to a church pastor, or tell a parent that you are having anger issues since the dicorce and you'd like to get some counseling. Your school may also provide counseling services in which folks not conducted to the school come to the school to see you.
I'll include you in my prayers.I myself sometimes lose my patience and give in to anger which,I know,are destructive and ungodly so everytime I get into it I immediately remind myself of its bad effects,disadvantages etc.
Anger is just one letter short of Danger.
My advice to you would be to pray and ask God to take this anger away. You are not the reason your mom and dad divorced, that's their problem, and it is a shame you are caught in the middle, but you can survive this and become stronger because of what's happening. Just trust in the Lord. He will see you through.
There is not a sin or frown upon anger as in a normal emotion. Anger becomes dangerous when you allow it to continue past the time it was meant to serve, when you focus on it too much or else let it get out of control, or if you hold on to it and let it change the good parts of you and do damage. It is normal to get angry at frustrating situations and where anger is warranted, but consuming anger just makes you feel bad. Sometimes we have to feel something negative for awhile to adjust and focus, and to protect ourselves. You are doing the right thing by coming here for advice and above all bringing it to God. Seek counsel to help you with your issues as well if you feel it is out of control. Read the bible and see sections where people have dealt with anger, Psalms and Proverbs speak of anger a lot. Some of the quotes there may hit home and be good to memorize during this trying times.
Also, keep your mind off things that you can't control and handle for now, distracting yourself with things that make you feel better- hobbies, friends, relaxing environments.
I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time right now and pray things get better.
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Child of GOD, there will be many circumstances that you feel you have no control over. Your parents seperating is a difficult circumstance for a child, especially one in adolescense. Many adolescense find themselves angry and there are not these added circumstances such as yours. You must accept that there are just going to be circumstances beyond your control. Trust in GOD that HIS GOOD will be done in it all, perhaps the acknowledgement of your anger is just a testing of your patience and devotion to our Lord? Be kind to both of your parents, even if they make you feel like you must take sides. Most of all, be kind to yourself and rest in the HOPE of GOD to see you through it all.
GOD BLESS!
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