help me out here!

I'll answer your question. If I was this girl, would I understand you? No. One of the things that sends women running from a relationship is any sort of pornography, especially if you're in bondage to it, or don't feel that it's evil. Even if you're a recovering porn addict, that's the kiss of death to any real relationship with a woman. How do I know this? Personal experience, man. Others have commented on the spiritual aspects of this situation and what you should do; I cannot improve upon their words, so let me instead address things from a different perspective: if you want to date, you're going to have to ditch this stuff. What do you want more? Fantasy images or to hold someone living and breathing?

The reason he is using the term "Pretend" is because he is not reffering to himself as the person with this problem.

He obviously is asking information on behalf of a friend.

Try asking a Chaplain at the "Ask a Chaplain" sub-section concerning the problem

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"So I am willing to endure anything if it will bring salvation and eternal glory in Christ Jesus to those God has chosen."- 2 Timothy 2:10

I get the sense that you are basing God's view of it on how you feel He will feel. Going ahead with something because you don't feel the guilt.

It is good practice to do some things out of conviction, rather than feeling. When you are a missionary, there will be rejections that will make you feel like quitting, uncomfortable housing that will make you sleep poorly, people who don't appreciate your work both there and at home. If you allowed your feelings to keep you going, you would never make it off the plane.

This is a good time to start self-disciplining your mind. Look at the allover way you approach life, and see how God can work through you now, for His good. Try fasting. If it's hard to do this on your own, put yourself into a situation where others help you understand self-control... like martial arts, boot camp, or other endurance training.

Just something that gives you the jump-start to be able to stop yourself when your brain battles your feelings, your soul battles your brain, your body battles your faith.