Marry man Flriting with me

yam · #21 13th March 2009, 05:18 PM

Originally Posted by Tamara224

Can you describe the things he does to flirt? There's flirting and there's flirting. One is just friendly banter and teasing and the other carries sexual undertones and innuendo.

My boss and I sort of flirt with one another a bit - it's never ever been sexual at all - he's married and I don't even think of him that way. It's really more like a brother-sister kind of teasing. But I know one person who thought we were flirting with each other and got her panties in a twist over it.

If the guy is flirting with you, then I think you should just ignore it and do your job. But you should see how he acts with other people, too... because he may just be being friendly. And some people are touchy-feely people, they don't think it's inappropriate to touch someone on the shoulder, arm, or back, or give people hugs and stuff.

Touching someone on the shoulder does not constitute sexual harassment, either. So I wouldn't get all freaked out by that, if I were you.

um he massage my sholders,and he like oh u stop coming on wednesday because u don't want to see me. Spring breaking is right around th cornor and I plan on taking time of and he was like oh you are taking time off ,so u can party in cancun. H eis always like asking these types of wired questions.

Tinkerbell33 · #22 13th March 2009, 05:19 PM

Originally Posted by 555onetwothreefour

Touchy feely people likely don't realize they're doing anything, but it can make someone uncomfortable. If she's not liking the touching, and she tells him to stop... and he doesn't... then she needs to talk about it with someone higher up. Because if she says to stop, and he won't, then it can be classified as harrassment.

I agree.

Tinkerbell33 · #23 13th March 2009, 05:20 PM

OP, have you told him that it makes you uncomfortable and that you want him to stop?

GlennK · #24 13th March 2009, 05:34 PM

Originally Posted by yam

For the past few weeks this guy at my job has be flriting with me. I had no idea he was marry until yesterday when I check the net. LOL Can u believe this crap, he is about 23 and he a newlywed. I can't belive what kind of decent man will do that. I am not intrested in him. I have no idea why I continue to attract these type of people. I mean I dress modest, carry myself in a very respectable manner ,I still seem get hit on by these people that I am not even attracted to. tWhat should I do, I want to pretend like i don't know about his business.???

sounds classy. i'd hit on ya.

Psalms34 · #25 13th March 2009, 06:19 PM

Originally Posted by little_tigress

yeah Mormonism at its core *is* polygamous, but keep in mind that a lot of Mormons are just in the faith because of their family and don't have a clue about that or if they do they may reject it.

Yeah, one branch does, the other refutes it… or doesn‘t acknowledge the practice of it any longer in any form. Mormon church split long ago to some degree.
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Yeah, from all said here, the guy is a creep. Just maybe tell him to back off, not a good witnessing opportunity due to being the opposite sex, his beliefs, and his obvious attraction. May attempt to confuse you if conversed with at any length, to get what he wants. Mormons aren’t usually dangerous to rebuke thoughtfully (have had many Mormon friends and some in family), all family oriented and such, but they can be persistent. If that happens, just practice your rights as an employee. It falls heavily under the sexual harassment directives/laws, verbatim. Just my recommendation.

CrusaderKing · #26 13th March 2009, 06:20 PM

You could always have him written up for harassment if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You don't have to put up with his advances and nor should you.

Psalms34 · #27 13th March 2009, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by CrusaderKing

You could always have him written up for harassment if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You don't have to put up with his advances and nor should you.

She should personally warn him first though. After all, he could easily be fired for it (probably will), sexual harassment is a serious offense, companies don’t take it lightly but fear getting sued themselves, and do. If he values his existing family, their welfare, he will back off after a personal warning. Contact is not a mild offense.

little_tigress · #28 13th March 2009, 07:40 PM

Originally Posted by Psalms34

She should personally warn him first though. After all, he could easily be fired for it (probably will), sexual harassment is a serious offense, companies don’t take it lightly but fear getting sued themselves, and do. If he values his existing family, their welfare, he will back off after a personal warning. Contact is not a mild offense.

yup. I do think, after hearing what he's doing, it does sound awfully strange and it is likely he is flirting. Whether its harmless in his eyes or not doesn't really matter and to the OP i thinks Psalms and others have given good advice. You're uncomfortable with his behaviour and you need to make him aware of that. If he persists then its time to bring in a higherup.