I don't think it would be safe to have your husband bring some strange kid to your house. First of all, you don't know this kid or his background. He could rob you blind or plant drugs in your house. Also, he could accuse you guys of doing bad things to him. Does the program let people take kids to their houses? Maybe I'm too paranoid but I wouldn't go for it. Even if I liked kids and wanted kids I think it sounds dangerous.
Yes, after a certain amount of time. I think it's after one month (or it might be three), and then you can bring the kid back to your place. But I agree with you...
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Learn to be lonely
Learn how to love life that is lived alone
Yeah, I was a child once, but even when I was a child, I didn't enjoy being around other children. Other than certain rare individuals whom I became good friends with, other children were always so loud and hyper and silly, and didn't talk about anything interesting. I always wanted to hang out with adults and talk to them. I used to dread Christmas dinners with the extended family where I had to sit at the "children's table". What an annoying and nerve-shattering waste of time that felt like!
__________________ Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God.
-- Romans 5:1-2
I've never wanted children. Never! I've never been sure exactly why, but only recently it dawned on me that it was at least partly because I was afraid that I might turn out to be the same sort of mother that mine was. Both of those arguments "You were a child once" and "What if your parents had felt that way?" are full of insight for me.
1. My mother certainly felt strongly that she did not want children - she became pregnant by mistake and it was an unpleasant shock for both my parents. It meant they were unable to live their lives as they had hoped, and had to go off in directions that made both of them absolutely miserable.
2. "You were a child once" - yes I certainly was, and I remember very clearly the utter misery of being a child that was unwanted and resented.
So no, I will not be repeating the pattern. Much as I love babies, like children and feel for them when things go wrong for them, it would be foolish of me to think that I could just brush under the carpet the fact that I would find it very difficult not to repeat the patterns of my own childhood.
Even though I am still speaking to my mother, who has apologised to me more than once for the way she treated me as a child, I think it would be wrong to take the risk, especially since neither I nor my husband has any desire to have children.
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