Another interesting aside. Many Christian guys I know have married or would want to marry a woman from central Asia or the far East (christian, of course).
Not to derail, but have you any guesses on why?
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"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you"
That is BEFORE, not WHEN.
Life starts before conception. Supporting a woman's right to choose to not fertilize an egg, giving her the ability to choose to let a life die, is pro-choice, not pro-life.
I don't think people with mistresses are "accepted."
Depends upon their social sphere. Those higher up are scrutinized far more (on the political scale, not necessarily on the wealth scale).
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Jeremiah 1:5
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you"
That is BEFORE, not WHEN.
Life starts before conception. Supporting a woman's right to choose to not fertilize an egg, giving her the ability to choose to let a life die, is pro-choice, not pro-life.
Well you also must consider that countries where arranged marriages are common are also extremely unaccepting of divorce. A divorced woman would be a social outcast, shunned even by her family. Thats not a good way to measure the success of a marriage.
The question then becomes, are there any countries which support both arranged marriages and divorce, and what are there divorce rates? I agree we need to work to eliminate other explanations (such as the society being against divorce).
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Jeremiah 1:5
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you"
That is BEFORE, not WHEN.
Life starts before conception. Supporting a woman's right to choose to not fertilize an egg, giving her the ability to choose to let a life die, is pro-choice, not pro-life.
Those Christian men who married central Asian girls were of a more meek, intellectual temperament and they obviously didn't relish those western women who were likely to bring an unspoken contract to the marriage that they needed to be treated as 'a person in their own right'.
Or it could be that they were just more attractive.
Sometimes I do think that feminism has been passed down the genes to produce a typical anglo-saxon who is appearing more and more sexless.
I was going to say more, but I've changed my mind....
The question then becomes, are there any countries which support both arranged marriages and divorce, and what are there divorce rates? I agree we need to work to eliminate other explanations (such as the society being against divorce).
I've been told by a Saudi that the divorce rate there is 40%.
On Muslim boards I've been told that divorce is a way of avoiding a worse evil - adultery, resulting from disatisfaction.
But then , I've always thought of Islam as a religion that is good at managing sexual desire, rather than sanctifying it.
I posited just in jest, that a good solution would be for her to enter a polygamous marriage with a GOOD MAN.
Actually according to Science, if you study the DNA there is more diversity among women compared to men. This would indicate that in the history of mankind polygamy is the norm. Even with Abraham we start off with one man and two women. Then there was Solomon with 700 wives. There is a lot of polygamy in the Bible. Of course that was then and this is now.
Those Christian men who married central Asian girls were of a more meek, intellectual temperament and they obviously didn't relish those western women who were likely to bring an unspoken contract to the marriage that they needed to be treated as 'a person in their own right'.
Actually "central asian" women tend to have higher levels of self esteem compared to western women. They are less likely to put up with abuse.
The nuclear family isolates such people. Historically families became the mainstay of needy family members. Today few churches practise the level of caring support that such people need. That does make life very difficult for them at many levels.
Just gonna say... I'm more of the type of lady that wants one husband and I want to be his only wife. I want us to live together, raise a family together, and go to church together (even if we don't believe the same way).
But I have seen news reports on TV about families where there is one husband and 2-3 wives and they live together in one house, have children, and attend church. They make it work, the wives say they are very happy and feel like they are sisters together and like working together. They do get to split up the role of one wive, technically. I'm sure they have their problems, like any marriage or family would, but they can handle it.
Then we also hear of stories where the husband is extremely abusive to his wives, sexually abusive to his children, etc. It honestly can go either way.
So while I don't believe it's God's will for us to have multiple wives in a marriage, that is really between the family. I think what your friend needs to do is try to talk to a priest/pastor about ways she could meet Godly men and find herself a good husband.
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