Please pray for my marriage LONG

I have posted this on another thread. My marriage needs prayer and I need advice. How should I handle this?? Thanks!

Part 1) I've been married for 7 years and have 2 kids ages 6 & 4.

My MIL does not see very well and has a handicap son that is 23 years old. She needs dialysis 3 times a week and needs help doing everything. Someone needs to cook and clean for her help her shower etc. her handicap son lives in a 23 year old body with a 5 year old mind.

Her son lives with her and gets money from watching them both. Enough to pay the bills and then some. Instead he chooses to buy fancy laptops and clothes that he doesn't need. This guy is a loser - he does not even work.

Apparently he has been spending money on everything but the necessities to live. They received an eviction notice and her son told her it is because the owner sold the property. My DH called and it was because they have not paid their rent since July.

On Saturday we received a call from my MIL that she did not have any insulin and didn't have money to pay for it. We paid the $95 bucks to get her insulin for her - apparently her son didn't pay her medical bill either.

So today after a bit of investigation my DH realized that it was in fact an eviction notice that they received because of unpaid rent and now he wants to move my MIL and her handicap son into our home.

I get along well with her - but I do not have the time to take care of anyone else in addition 2 more people!!!! Right now we are in a bind ourselves. We have been renting a house for the last year and a half and we found out on Friday that the landlord did not pay her mortgage so our home will be sold on auction on the 25th. We don't know where we are headed!!!

I work full time, go to school full time and am a mother of two small kids and a wife and additionally we are very active in church. I don't have time to take anymore responsibilities on. I called my husband and told him 1st he didn't discuss moving her in with us - 2ndly we don't even know how our situation is going to pan out or if we are going to have a roof over our head any longer. he asked where is she suppose to go?? I said maybe she can go stay with your sister for a while. And he hung up on me.

Part 2) So we have come to a compromise.

To make a long story short - he doesn't want to file elder abuse against his brother. His brother took all of her money and transferred it to some investment, she went to cash out so she can move it to a regular mutual fund and she realized that she lost all her money (thousands). She only has 2k to her name.

I told him I didn't mind him helping his mom out but it was going to be a temporary situation not permanent.

When she called crying that she didn't have anymore money it was the perfect opportunity for her to console her and let her know that she could live with us for 6 months and save her money for the next 6 months so that she can buy a place to live or reestablish herself. She agreed that it would help her not having to pay us.

I made it very clear that she and his brother are his responsibility and that he would have to care for them both. He understands this and said that He was going to worry about them, not me.

He was helping his mom pack last night and I called him to see how he was doing. He was very sad - apparently his mom was trying to convince him to allow his other brother (the one who caused this problem) to move in with us too. He apparently doesn't have a place to live yet.

He hasn't asked (he knows what I'm going to say) but I made it very clear to him before he went there that him moving in with us is not an option. He put himself into this mess and he needs to get himself out of it. Tough Love!


Part 3) She is moving in today, and I'm counting down the days for her to move out already!

Since then we had compromised, and him telling her that it was going to be temporary apparently she was not paying attention and did not remember the conversation taking place.

I reiterated that it would be temporary and that we would help her find a place after 6 months. She disagreed and said that she couldn't and didn't want to live on her own.

A few days later she yelled at me in my own house yelling "why did you bring me here" I said I didn't you son brought you here - he made the decision. they she yelled at me "he can change you, I am his only mother" He didn't defend me or tell his mother to stop yelling at me. He said that I needed to apologize to her. I never did.

We have gone to mediation to come to a resolution once. He says that he wants his mom to live with us for the rest of her life and does not want her to move out. I don't want her to live with us forever. You know that saying - a dead body smells after 3 days. YUP it sure does. It's been one month and I'm so ready for my privacy back.

She was eavesdropping on my conversation with my sister the other night when I was on the phone with her. Of course I was talking about my MIL and telling my sister that I want this to be short term and I need my privacy.

I know it's getting to my DH. He didn't make her lunch so she decided that she wasn't going to eat anything yesterday and yelled at him for not having something prepared. I told her you could have easily made yourself a sandwich - there is bread and cold cuts in the fridge. She didn't respond.

We were invited to dinner on Saturday night and my DH asked if his mom and brother can come along. My friends DH said "dude, it's just for the 8 of us" He said we'll we are not coming if my mom and brother are not invited. I think he is being absurd.

I love him and will continue to make this work. The last few days have been pleasant with him - I don't pay too much attention to her but I'm sooooo lacking privacy!!!

I have gone for intercessory prayer and the intercessors say that I have a spirit of Witchcraft and occult in my house and that my MIL has the spirit of Jezebel. They say that this is what is destroying my marriage; it is not flesh and bone. Our marriage was fine before this. His priorities are very skewed. He is putting his mother before God me and the kids. He has been told this on several occasions from his Christian Brothers.

He has no motivation to pray or to read the word. I feel like I’m the only one uplifting Jesus in my house. It has been very tough.

Please pray for healing over my marriage.

This sounds very very difficult but thank GOD you know JESUS!!

Although you have been treated wrongly.. God can make good come of this..

Only in GOD can you make this work.. with HIS strength..

You cannot do this on your own.. only CHRIST in you.. will you get through.. but you can overcome.. and you will get through with HIS help..

When you do it Gods way you will be sucessful.. think of the life of Joseph.. terrible terrible things happened.. but through it all He kept his faith.. His reliance in God and did not fight it but blossomed in his circumstances.. and God prospered him where he was..

If you do right by GOD.. HE will not only strengthen you.. but will work through this to bless you and those in your family..

Do not take what comes at you personally.. I believe this is not your loved ones coming at you but the evil one.. love and patience from you.... kindness and gentleness will help you not only overcome but bring peace and straight paths for all involved..

I will pray..

Love works wonders.. also what would JESUS do?? It is a good way to help us through these testing times.. There is nothing wrong with wanting your house back again and your family to be at peace.. but right now at this present time.. This is what is happening to you.. and you need to deal with it.. It doesn't mean it will be long term.. Take one day at a time.. I think when we look at our situation and it is hard.. we cannot bear to think of even one more day.. but one day is bearable at a time..

Tell the LORD what you need.. be specific and then be patient.. and love.. treat others as you would want to be treated.. pray alot..

Ask the LORD continuously for daily strength.. stay connected to HIM more then any other.. Ask the LORD for some place for your family to go where their needs are met.. Gods grace will be suficient for all your needs will be met in HIM.. His plan is not for your harm.. but to prosper you and give you hope and a future..

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Praying in Jesus mighty name
Lord Father Abba Daddy
you know e need healing
lord you know the pains of our hearts
Lord you are the healer and the giver of all good things we ask you in Jesus name for healing
Amen

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Then spoke Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.


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