I am gay. Am I a bad person?

Don't commit adultary and place your attention on learning more about GOD instead of directing your facination to worldly pleasures. You owe that much to both your wife and daughter and the pledge you made in your marriage vows.

The post may be fake but there are people in this exact situation.

These things will continue to happen as long as homosexuality is considered an unacceptable or immoral lifestyle. As long as we have people claiming that homosexuality is a curable problem or a choice there will be homosexual people getting married and trying to hide their true nature. I can't imagine that if society were more accepting of that lifestyle that gay people would still be shamed into maintaining the status quo.

The OP may have been a Poe, but to anyone who finds himself in such a situation:

Be honest with your wife. Cheating is cheating, and it isn't fair to her. Maybe the two of you truly love one another, and want to try to stay together; that's fine. Maybe the two of you will decide it's best to break things off, and seek out more fulfilling relationships. That's fine too. You can still remain close friends, if you still care deeply about one another. However, do not force yourselves to remain married "for the kids." Children are much more perceptive than adults often imagine, and there's no better way to poison a kid's feelings about marriage and relationships than to grow up watching their parents constantly feeling miserable and resentful toward one another. It would be far better for any children to see a healthy and happy relationshp modeled in the form of the mother's marriage to her second husband, or the father's relationship with his partner.

In summary: Cheating on your wife is wrong. Threatening people is wrong. Being gay is not wrong. Being honest is better for everyone involved (yes, even the children!) in the long run.

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So many centuries
So many Gods
We were the prisoners
of our own fantasy
But then we had nothing---
Who'll lead our life?
No, no, we can't live without Gods

--Blind Guardian, "Valhalla"

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
--Robert A. Heinlein

In short no. The lieing and threatening people is bad, I wouldn't say that makes you a quote "bad person". People forced into situations such as the one you are in through a life time of repression, brainwashing, and guilt by their family members often will have problems in both family and personal areas. Take it from someone who has developed multiple mental problems from the constant homophobia and hatred expressed towards him from his mother all his life.

You could try being honest with your wife and perhaps file for divorce. You might say, "but I love my wife". Well that might be true, but you obviously don't love her in the way you love a life long partner or you wouldn't be A. Cheating on her repeatedly, and B. Lieing profusely about it and threatening innocent people. If you can't see that struggling for 15 years with something that is an innate part of you and won't go away and doesn't hurt anyone in and of itself (except the people you are lieing to about it), then there doesn't seem to be much hope for you in this area. By that I don't mean there is no hope, I mean there is no hope until you at first accept and and understand yourself and love yourself as WHO YOU ARE. I would highly suggest going to see a therapist they can help with this process, as well as much of the emotional turmoil these things often cause people. I know mine has helped me immensely (though I am still trying to find a way to come out to my family I am much more at ease with myself at least).

My heart goes out to you on this issue, I know it is tough and painful. Please don't give up hope, and please do seriously give thought to what I said. Know that you are not alone, there are so many of us in the exact same or similiar situations that you are.

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