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We're HERE! I've pasted the original post from the start of the thread below for any newbees, and will post a couple of articles us In-law challenged members have found soon too.
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Original Post:
If you want to read other's experienced based ideas on how to deal with inlaw situations, this is where to go, and here is how it all started:
After having recieved the great cyber-support from some of the "marrieds" on this part of the forum, about my crazy in-law situation, I had an idea.
One member and I were talking about how many resources for marriage (church, magazines, books, etc.) have a lot of advice on things like finances, romance, sex, etc. for resolving conflicts between couples. But, very little is covered at any length on dealing with in-laws. Yet, the responses I had from others, told me I wasn't a lone.
We also laughed at how a show like Everybody Loves Raymond has enough material to make a hugely successful sitcom, and how many of us can see some parallels in spoofs like that to our own marriages. But how, as a Christian Body, do we educate and support marriages with in-law issues?
So, this may not work, but I am starting an "IN- LAW DO's and DON'Ts thread for the marrieds to use.
I'll start:
DO have your spouse be the "spokesperson" for your marriage & kids (if you have kids) with your inlaws.
DON'T assume your inlaws have the same interpretation of what a Christian marriage is as you.
Anyway, it apparently did work. We're on another rollover, and have a lot of pals who come here. Welcome all. Read below, and you'll find the "Helpful tools" links on a couple more posts on this page.
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Here are links to advice from Dr. James Dobson and Dr. Phil on dealing with in-law issues, healthy boundaries and cutting of apron strings, for anyone who's been looking for these types of materials. Many of us found them to be helpful.
Pals....did I get most of our tools in here? The BEST tools are each other, as we well know. We can repost DOs/DON'Ts as they come up again for us (because as we know, those In-Law issues never really go away, we just learn to cope with them better).
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Originally Posted by marezee
Or we ignore them altogether!
Oh, further for any newbies....did I mention we get funny here to break the tension. And we don't make you stick to any rules on the "DO/DON'T" idea.
I think the only rule is that we all be respectful to each other. Dealing with difficult In-law issues is painful enough. This is a support/idea/coping-as-best-we-can thread.
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