Lonely and Despondent

I just recently split up with my girlfriend, and now I am plunged into the harsh world of girl-less solitude. I know I'm not going through anything that thousands of other people are dealing with, but it obviously doesn't feel any less urgent. What I hate hearing from people is that girls don't matter, or that maybe God doesn't want me to date right now/or at all, so don't tell me that, unless God Himself comes to you and tells you to say it.

I don't know what else to say without making myself sound like a babbling idiot.

All I know, is that I am painfully lonely and on the verge of depression.

I am sorry Amadeus that you are going through this lonely time. Breaking up stinks, no way around that. I have been exactly where you are and truly know how you feel. Sometimes well meaning people say things that really cause more hurt and pain along the way.

All I know to tell you is to pour your hurt and loneliness out to God. He can handle it and He can heal you, if you will open up your heart and let Him. He is willing, we just have to be willing to accept it.

I will say a prayer for you. Please keep talking here to us. Support is good at times like this, as well. It's nice to know that there are survivors and that you can be a survivor too!

's and 's

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Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

Proverbs 3:5
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Eat a live toad the first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day!

The time right after a breakup is always hard. I'm sorry that you're hurting.

You're probably going to hurt for awhile as you adjust to spending time without that special someone, but as time goes on, your hurt will gradually fade. Just take it one day at a time.

I wish you the very best, and quick healing during this hard time in your life.

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girl-less solitude? did you only ever talk to your girlfreind or something? ok, that sounds harsh but i don't mean it to be. it's been a long while since i've dated (and broken up) but i sympathize with you. the best advice i can give you, that hasn't been given yet, is spend time with your friends and don't dwell too much on the break up.

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AMADEUS!! I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from, I am going through something of that sort, and it is the MOST painful thing ever. I also am tired of people telling me that it may not be meant to be, but I've heard that, I know that, I'm just tired. I know you can agree with me when I say that, I'm tired of everything and everyone. I, myself was going through the same thing, I haven't spoke to anyone in my family about it, my friends, no one, they just know I'm going through something...PM me for more info...we can definitely talk...I'm glad to know I'm not the only one going through it...

Of course girls matter! I happen to like girls quite alot! You gotta trust God though, bro. He's promised us the best so take a look around at what you do have and know you're going to be getting sooooo much more!

So go back to her if you miss her.

Thanks for the responses.

I do miss my "ex", but I would like to meet someone new. We didn't have a lot in common, so it caused a lot of issues. I just wish, people were more open. People say you can go looking for love, but I don't see that anywhere in the Bible. In the Bible, men were always looking for love. There wasn't any of this hubbub about finding the "one", unless of course it was God's will as it was for a few biblical people.

You know, with my last girlfriend... When we split up (rather I should say when I dumped her) it was because she was forcing me to choose between her and God. Not going to turn my back on God so here I am dateless and sometimes lonely myself. After we broke up, even though it was the right thing to do, I still missed her. Rather, I thought I missed her but what I really was missing was having someone specific to point to and say, "Yeah, she wants me!" I have an insatiable desire to be desired Interestingly, that was even after I discovered she didn't want me but needed me to essentially fill the role of a loving male figure which her father never did... anyway... that's more psycho babble then I generally use so I'm done