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Unread 10th November 2003, 11:21 PM
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Question How to deal with a procrastinating husband without turning into a nagging wife?

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Unread 10th November 2003, 11:29 PM
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I would just tell him straight up that you don't want to be a nag, but he needs to get off his bum and do ___ whatever it is that you want him to do.

All he might need is a push in the right direction, I am a procrastinator myself, and I know it annoys my fiance, its hard to get me to do anything, but if I know that he's annoyed, I will usually be more motivated to get things done.
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Procrastinator? Hmmm, I'll have to answer this tomorrow...

Seriously, the title of this thread describes me and my wife. Funny, though, the nagging seems to make my procrastination worse. Stupid and stubborn on my part, yes.

The thing that finally made a difference is that she made me understand how my procrastinating made her feel. See, most guys know the wife loves them if they do the wifely, umm, things when we ask, or if the wife says, "I love you" or gives us kisses, etc. Wives, on the other hand, see acts of service as acts of love. For instance, I work out of a home office. I eat breakfast and lunch in my very own kitchen and see no problem at all with throwing the dirty dishes in the sink and doing them with dinner dishes. My wife, however, has a big problem with that. She comes home to a spotless house with a few dishes in the sink. She sees a dirty house. This causes her stress as she comes home to her refuge from the world. She's a neat nick and the first thing she sees is a "mess". Big deal, right? To her it is. Men see dirty dishes and think, "I'll do them later." women see dirty dishes and think, "My husband doesn't love me enough to take two minutes out of his day to take care of those dishes so that I can come home to a clean house." Crazy, huh? Not crazy, just different. The thing is, I had no idea why this thing that was little to me was so big to my wife. Until she told me. Have I changed over night? Not hardly. However, more often than not, I do realize the importance of those "little things' and I take two minutes to get it done.

So, ladies, educate your husbands. You will tell your friends the smallest thought or detail, yet you expect us to be mind readers. Heck, we barely know what we're thinking most of the time, let alone what someone else is thinking. Tell them, in a nice way, how the procrastinating makes you feel. Let them in on the signal it sends to you. And if they don't respond appropriately, bribe them. If that doesn't work, they deserve to be nagged.
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Describes me and my husband as well!

Mine is the worst procrastinator ever, and I have to nag and nag until something gets done, and I always must emphasize to him that I wouldnt nag if he wouldnt put things off all the time.
The best thing I think you could do to change the situation around is to pray, pray for your husbands ability to not put things off.
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Do it yourself, or at least try (and maybe even mess up).

If my wife starts doing something that I know is my job, that'll urk me, but urk me enough to push her out of the way so I can do it. Wait a minute...I just figured out her secret...hmmm..
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Originally Posted by Gabriel
Procrastinator? Hmmm, I'll have to answer this tomorrow...

Seriously, the title of this thread describes me and my wife. Funny, though, the nagging seems to make my procrastination worse. Stupid and stubborn on my part, yes.

The thing that finally made a difference is that she made me understand how my procrastinating made her feel. See, most guys know the wife loves them if they do the wifely, umm, things when we ask, or if the wife says, "I love you" or gives us kisses, etc. Wives, on the other hand, see acts of service as acts of love. For instance, I work out of a home office. I eat breakfast and lunch in my very own kitchen and see no problem at all with throwing the dirty dishes in the sink and doing them with dinner dishes. My wife, however, has a big problem with that. She comes home to a spotless house with a few dishes in the sink. She sees a dirty house. This causes her stress as she comes home to her refuge from the world. She's a neat nick and the first thing she sees is a "mess". Big deal, right? To her it is. Men see dirty dishes and think, "I'll do them later." women see dirty dishes and think, "My husband doesn't love me enough to take two minutes out of his day to take care of those dishes so that I can come home to a clean house." Crazy, huh? Not crazy, just different. The thing is, I had no idea why this thing that was little to me was so big to my wife. Until she told me. Have I changed over night? Not hardly. However, more often than not, I do realize the importance of those "little things' and I take two minutes to get it done.

So, ladies, educate your husbands. You will tell your friends the smallest thought or detail, yet you expect us to be mind readers. Heck, we barely know what we're thinking most of the time, let alone what someone else is thinking. Tell them, in a nice way, how the procrastinating makes you feel. Let them in on the signal it sends to you. And if they don't respond appropriately, bribe them. If that doesn't work, they deserve to be nagged.
Very well said. I totally agree. Personally, I've always told my wife, "all you have to do is smile and I melt..."

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This also describes E-Beth and I to a T.....
The more she complains, The more jobs I find to put off what she needs done...Not 100% of the time, but, most of the time. Now, If you had asked me about my first wife, The answer woulda been an emphatic yes, just to get her goat.
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