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5th October 2003, 01:11 AM
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hello everyone! I don't have anyone to talk to, so I thought i would post here. I gave my husband of 7 years separation papers today. It was the anniversary of the day we got engaged(coincidence) But it didn't matter because he forgot again. For years i have tried to make this marriage work, despite everything that has happened. I feel lied to and betrayed. He is not really the man I married. All effort to maintain a healthy relationship ceased after marriage. I became a christian and started going to church, trying to hold my family together. Nothing changed. He read the papers and didnt bat an eye. He hasn't even spoken to me about them. What should I do? Please pray for me |
5th October 2003, 09:10 AM
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5th October 2003, 12:09 PM
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Reps: 16 (power: 0) | | | I would not be in any hurry to take the next step toward divorce. Is there any way you can get him to talk with you about this and find out what he really wants? Would he be willing to see a counsellor with you?
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5th October 2003, 12:29 PM
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Reps: 10 (power: 0) | | | Thanks for the replies)) We have already had marriage counceling,,,,he just won't put forth any effort.... |
5th October 2003, 12:41 PM
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Check out her Bible study on Marriage and Divorce which she posted in the Journal section yesterday. It's a beautiful, thoughtful piece, and it helped me understand things a lot.
I'm not married, but I split from my intended in the last week, so I go a small way to understanding. 
My prayers are with you, and with anyone else in a similar situation. |
5th October 2003, 02:08 PM
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5th October 2003, 02:22 PM
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5th October 2003, 07:34 PM
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Reps: 10 (power: 0) | | | tHANKS SOO MUCH FOR YOUR PRAYERS. i GAVE HIM PAPERS LAST NIGHT, HE'S STILL HANGING AROUND FOR SOME REASON........ |
5th October 2003, 09:04 PM
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Faerie Mom,
I can truly relate. It sounds as though you may being trying to wake him by serving him the papers, and by some sense of selfish pride he wont give you the satisfaction of a reaction. I know this scenario all too well. However if you put your faith in God He truly will answer your prayers. You see He loves your husband just as He loves you, sometimes we don't understand why we are in the situations that we are in, however growth is occurring even if unrealized. Things WILL change...I know this to be true! It is not always in OUR time...we must be patient, we must be self-less, and we must be the ultimate example of the love of Christ.
Please know that marriage is not easy...but it is truly worth it.
I will keep you in my prayers. 4ever in Christ |
5th October 2003, 10:37 PM
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Reps: 41 (power: 0) | | | hes still there because hes a phlegmatic personality type... the very kind that never moves. the type of person who sits on the couch all day and accomplishes nothing if he or she has no job. the same type that if you sit there and say "HELLO I AM MISERABLE IN OUR MARRIAGE" he tunes it out because at all costs, peace must be maintained. even if it is only in his head. getting a phlegmatic to move is near impossible. i understand it is too late though probably... to gain an understanding of why he is the way he is.... or is it too late? if you are posting to us, are you hoping for recovery still? either way, i feel your pain and i understand this is a hard time. let us know how it works out |
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