Do You Think It Helps to Talk about Your Problems?

WannaBeReal · #1 8th August 2007, 09:37 AM

Hi I am new to all this and dont feel comfortable talking about my problems. One thing I will say is that I have going through a lot in my life and understand about cutting as I am a cutter myself even though I dont like to admit it. Would appreciate other peoples opinion. To my friends they say I have always got a smile on my face yet deep down I feel a lot of hurt, anger and have really become a hermit. I dont even wanna write this really but just want to hear from people who understand and are not going to judge.

rasis · #2 9th August 2007, 03:47 AM

Hello! Be welcome!

i think i know about measure you are in... because i feel nearly the same things.

In my opinion talking about the things are very helpful.
i'll try to explain it...
ehm... it sounds to me as if you have created a mask/ a happy person to your friends and you are playing a good role while you are in you inner soul hurted and alone. It is like a cage or prison. You isolate yourself with the feelings and your past with whitch you are not able to deal alone. Starting to talk these things - even it would at the beginning just be at the internet- could be the beginnig of building a door into freedom out of your prison, one step on the way to overcome SI.

And in my opinion you are able to be proud of yourself that you find the courage to post this! Perhaps this can be the beginning of leaving "the prison"...

ChristInAction · #3 9th August 2007, 07:13 AM

Hey,
&& welcome 2 the SI board.
I'm glad u'v reached out.
Its the 1st step 2ward healing this stuff.
When u said bout ur friends saying u seem really happy ect. I know what its like, my friends do the same && the day after I cut or something really bads happened && i'm not really happy, they comment && it just makes me feel so much worse that i cant be happy 4 them.
I hope your able to find the stregth to tell us whats been happening && your welcome to PM me anytime.
We will not judge, we all understand wat ur facing && it isnt easy && its harder to do alone.
So, I hope you feel welcome.
Good luck & prayers.
Ally x0x (CIA)

BeautifulWorshipper · #4 9th August 2007, 10:40 AM

Originally Posted by WannaBeReal

Hi I am new to all this and dont feel comfortable talking about my problems. One thing I will say is that I have going through a lot in my life and understand about cutting as I am a cutter myself even though I dont like to admit it. Would appreciate other peoples opinion. To my friends they say I have always got a smile on my face yet deep down I feel a lot of hurt, anger and have really become a hermit. I dont even wanna write this really but just want to hear from people who understand and are not going to judge.

i dont judge, I've been there

but it does help too talk, it gets it just out there instead of bottled up, and it makes someone aware so they can help

DoesAnybodyHearHer · #5 9th August 2007, 11:37 AM

i know how you feel, i find it very hard to tlk to people about my problems aswell!!! what i will say is that i found this forum really good cos u can tlk to people knowing that they wont judge you and will always try to help you if they can!!!

brokenwings27 · #6 9th August 2007, 01:21 PM

Originally Posted by WannaBeReal

Hi I am new to all this and dont feel comfortable talking about my problems. One thing I will say is that I have going through a lot in my life and understand about cutting as I am a cutter myself even though I dont like to admit it. Would appreciate other peoples opinion. To my friends they say I have always got a smile on my face yet deep down I feel a lot of hurt, anger and have really become a hermit. I dont even wanna write this really but just want to hear from people who understand and are not going to judge.

absolutely no one here will judge you..
and i understand exactly where you are coming from
i wear a smile too, all my friends think im the craziest, funniest person around.. but deep down i have this darker person in me that cuts, and is sad and hurt. i dont tell anyone about my SI(except for here) or my.. depression(i guess you could call it) and i know i really need to, but talking here does help some. i dont have to hide anything cuz i know these people wont judge .. and they want to help you, and help you beat SI. i found that out very quickly. PM me anytime if you want to talk or anything.. big hugs!!

Moana · #7 9th August 2007, 11:39 PM

Help lines can be helpful.

flying_kiwifruit · #8 10th August 2007, 12:39 AM

Yeah I find it helps. I will only talk to my mate who has been through it, my bestie which discovered it and my school couceller. This is because they dont judge me at all.

I think if you you are going to talk it needs to be someonw who will understand you and not judge you. Thats where this forum is good, we wont judge you just support you.

If you want to talk feel free to PM me.
Nat

meh · #9 10th August 2007, 10:01 PM

Originally Posted by WannaBeReal

Hi I am new to all this and dont feel comfortable talking about my problems. One thing I will say is that I have going through a lot in my life and understand about cutting as I am a cutter myself even though I dont like to admit it. Would appreciate other peoples opinion. To my friends they say I have always got a smile on my face yet deep down I feel a lot of hurt, anger and have really become a hermit. I dont even wanna write this really but just want to hear from people who understand and are not going to judge.

Yes, it does help

Even if at first you just start out here on the net. It helps to write out your problems and have others read about them and support you and pray for you and pay attention to you. For me, after doing that, it became easier to open up in real life as well.

You aren't going to be judged here, that is for sure. We are all in the same boat or have been there in the past.

If you have trouble talking to your friends, you might try phoning some hot-lines, too. The people on them are usually very nice and I found at times it was just good to talk things out.

I hope you find this place a help.

Moriah_Conquering_Wind · #10 13th September 2007, 12:13 AM

It helps to talk one-on-one. There are a couple really great ppl from this site that will talk to me when I'm being taken over hard or when I'm feeling SI-ish (which is something new for me and kinda .... unsettling ....) especially when i have overwhelming HI it helps to talk, keeps me from acting out on it.