anyway, I invite you to participate in this excersize. What will do if you want is to highlight the traits that is most like you (or your spose) and IF YOU WANT, you can explain more about why you think this okay here is the list:
avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection Totally me, let me just say this, I hate to even eat out cause of this.
is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked = oh yeah me again, I must "sense" that they will like me or I am not willing to talk to them, I may say hello but that is it
shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed - maybe this explains why I am in my 30's and never been in love
is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations - OH YEAH this is definatly me!!!!! I am so scared of that, I even get depressed sometimes cause of this <
is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy Sometimes
views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others OH yes, especailly with certain types of people
is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing Yeah, I would have to say most of the time, but if I HAVE too (like looking for a new job) I will.
Thank you all and I hope that this will help you too. More soon!
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Originally Posted by BeautifullyImperfect
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My ol' buddy!! I didn't realize you were an avoidant!! =O
Heck, Kidd, I didn't realize that YOU were an avoidant!
avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection Usually, unless I know I'm pretty good at it or I'm with people I know really well.
is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked Yep. That's me. Dead ringer.
shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed - That would explain a lot...
is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations - Yep, that's me again.
is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy Sometimes. Usually it's because I'm too shy to do anything
views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others That's me again. Durn Elementary school...
is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing Not necessarily. Usually, it's the shyness thing coming out again.
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How long have you known that you have been an Avoidant? Dont know. Who in your family, is an avoidant? None How many online friends do you have that your reguarally chat with? 1 How many PM's do you receive a day? 0 How many emails do you receive a day or week? 5 or 6 How many online friends have burned you? Dont know what you mean by burned but too many have stopped talking to me How many offline friends do you have? 4 How many "aquaintances friends do you have? Lots, that what happen while your still at High School How many very close friends do you have (including family/spouse)? 3 my BF and my two close mates. How many friends did you have when you were younger (Primary for me im at high school)? 0 What clique did you belong to when you were (are) in high School? out casts Did you talk to your stuffed animals alot as a kid? sometimes What was/is closer to you, friends or your stuffed animals? Cant remember What do you avoid the most? Getting rejected ot hurt Is it easier for you to make friends or lose them? About the same
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avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection I prefer to work on my own at all times
is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked Yeah pretty much, people have to approch me first
shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed - Hits the nail on the head
is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations -You could say that
is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy sometimes i'm shy quite often
views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others Thats my past present and proberly future
is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing Yep, wont go anywhere new without someone else I know there, and even that s hard.
Now that those are done, I'll introduce my self. Im Nat and what has been said describes me perfecally. I'm the type that prefer to be asorbed in a book than to be any where else.
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I'll join the club. I barely have any friends. I'm awful at making friends with my age group, but I get along great with older people.
Let's see here... on CF, I'm Goldenrod. My real name is Marissa though. I like to draw, reading about interesting things, keeping up-to-date on everything, shopping, things that make me laugh, and feed birds. This summer, I just watched tv and was on the computer most of the time. ^^;
Alright, I guess I'll do the survey now.
Avoidant Survey:
How long have you known that you have been an Avoidant?
After the first grade. I never was good at making friends because I'm not that social around people I don't know.
Who in your family, is an avoidant?
Probably my mom. She only has a few friends she hangs out with. I think.
How many online friends do you have that your reguarally chat with?
Quite a few, but not 10+. I love recieving random pms, as long as their not discriminating. But I love talking to the user Daffodilly because she is so nice to me and everyone else in the Teen Girls' Club. ^^
How many PM's do you receive a day?
One or two at the most. I don't think I've ever gone beyond three.
How many emails do you receive a day or week?
Not counting my MySpace alert emails, I'd say about none.
How many online friends have burned you?
I don't really keep track of online friends. Is that okay? :/ Only one I guess for not liking a band I liked. >_>
Not having to do with the question, I have 5 friends on CF though. I barely talk to any of them though. I keep in touch by pm though, but I do emjoy chatting with them when they contact me. I think anyone likes that. ^^
I don't keep count of online friends though. Too stressfull.
How many offline friends do you have?
I don't know... only a few good ones and lots of aquantences.
But the birds I go feed by a park I consider my friends and children. If birds count...
How many "aquaintances friends do you have?
I don't know...I don't keep count.
How many very close friends do you have (including family/spouse)?
One at the moment. I gave my other close friend a Bible at school one day and after that, I never saw her at school or in rl or had a phone call from her since.
How many friends did you have when you were younger (high school)?
Oh, about 5 or 6. Kindergarden through 1st grade were my most popular days.
What clique did you belong to when you were (are) in high School?
The unpopular click which is at the Anime Club I go to. We're all different and crazy in there. xD And I mean crazy...
Did you talk to your stuffed animals alot as a kid?
Yes lol. I love stuffed animals still. I love playing claw machines and winning stuffed animals and then getting rid of them in the end. The cycle repeats itself. xD
What was/is closer to you, friends or your stuffed animals?
Friends of course. I'm not that obsessive over stuffed animals.
What do you avoid the most?
Stress and worry. I can't stand going through it. It makes my life miserable and I hate it.
Is it easier for you to make friends or lose them?
Make I guess. It's not very easy for me to make friends though. Like I said, I make friends with people older than me better than people my age. I'm an adult person.
Okay all, if you can think of some more NON-PERSONAL questions PLEASE post them!
What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?
^ That's a good one.
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How long have you known that you have been an Avoidant? Dont know. Who in your family, is an avoidant? None How many online friends do you have that your reguarally chat with? 1 How many PM's do you receive a day? 0 How many emails do you receive a day or week? 5 or 6 How many online friends have burned you? Dont know what you mean by burned but too many have stopped talking to me How many offline friends do you have? 4 How many "aquaintances friends do you have? Lots, that what happen while your still at High School How many very close friends do you have (including family/spouse)? 3 my BF and my two close mates. How many friends did you have when you were younger (Primary for me im at high school)? 0 What clique did you belong to when you were (are) in high School? out casts Did you talk to your stuffed animals alot as a kid? sometimes What was/is closer to you, friends or your stuffed animals? Cant remember What do you avoid the most? Getting rejected ot hurt Is it easier for you to make friends or lose them? About the same
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avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection I prefer to work on my own at all times
is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked Yeah pretty much, people have to approch me first
shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed - Hits the nail on the head
is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations -You could say that
is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy sometimes i'm shy quite often
views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others Thats my past present and proberly future
is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing Yep, wont go anywhere new without someone else I know there, and even that s hard.
Now that those are done, I'll introduce my self. Im Nat and what has been said describes me perfecally. I'm the type that prefer to be asorbed in a book than to be any where else.
Originally Posted by Goldenrod
I'll join the club. I barely have any friends. I'm awful at making friends with my age group, but I get along great with older people.
Let's see here... on CF, I'm Goldenrod. My real name is Marissa though. I like to draw, reading about interesting things, keeping up-to-date on everything, shopping, things that make me laugh, and feed birds. This summer, I just watched tv and was on the computer most of the time. ^^;
Alright, I guess I'll do the survey now.
Avoidant Survey:
How long have you known that you have been an Avoidant?
After the first grade. I never was good at making friends because I'm not that social around people I don't know.
Who in your family, is an avoidant?
Probably my mom. She only has a few friends she hangs out with. I think.
How many online friends do you have that your reguarally chat with?
Quite a few, but not 10+. I love recieving random pms, as long as their not discriminating. But I love talking to the user Daffodilly because she is so nice to me and everyone else in the Teen Girls' Club. ^^
How many PM's do you receive a day?
One or two at the most. I don't think I've ever gone beyond three.
How many emails do you receive a day or week?
Not counting my MySpace alert emails, I'd say about none.
How many online friends have burned you?
I don't really keep track of online friends. Is that okay? :/ Only one I guess for not liking a band I liked. >_>
Not having to do with the question, I have 5 friends on CF though. I barely talk to any of them though. I keep in touch by pm though, but I do emjoy chatting with them when they contact me. I think anyone likes that. ^^
I don't keep count of online friends though. Too stressfull.
How many offline friends do you have?
I don't know... only a few good ones and lots of aquantences.
But the birds I go feed by a park I consider my friends and children. If birds count...
How many "aquaintances friends do you have?
I don't know...I don't keep count.
How many very close friends do you have (including family/spouse)?
One at the moment. I gave my other close friend a Bible at school one day and after that, I never saw her at school or in rl or had a phone call from her since.
How many friends did you have when you were younger (high school)?
Oh, about 5 or 6. Kindergarden through 1st grade were my most popular days.
What clique did you belong to when you were (are) in high School?
The unpopular click which is at the Anime Club I go to. We're all different and crazy in there. xD And I mean crazy...
Did you talk to your stuffed animals alot as a kid?
Yes lol. I love stuffed animals still. I love playing claw machines and winning stuffed animals and then getting rid of them in the end. The cycle repeats itself. xD
What was/is closer to you, friends or your stuffed animals?
Friends of course. I'm not that obsessive over stuffed animals.
What do you avoid the most?
Stress and worry. I can't stand going through it. It makes my life miserable and I hate it.
Is it easier for you to make friends or lose them?
Make I guess. It's not very easy for me to make friends though. Like I said, I make friends with people older than me better than people my age. I'm an adult person.
Okay all, if you can think of some more NON-PERSONAL questions PLEASE post them!
What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?
^ That's a good one.
WELCOME to our newest members. I hope that you all find this club helpful too. PLEASE feel free to talk about whatever may be on your mind brothers and sister. AND I luv the question about the icecream flavor, I have many!
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I found out yesterday that I think my pet rat has the beginnings of pneumonia, and there's nothing I can do about it....I'm SHATTERED...makes me just want to hide from the world. One day I'm going to have to decide when is the best time to...put him to sleep...I went to bed at 8pm last night and slept for 12 hours, Ijust can't face the world. Charlie is a beautiful little creature, I've only had him and his brother (Bruce) since Christmas. Sounds silly for a woman my age to be so upset about a RAT...but he's more than a rat to me......
Annie
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I found out yesterday that I think my pet rat has the beginnings of pneumonia, and there's nothing I can do about it....I'm SHATTERED...makes me just want to hide from the world. One day I'm going to have to decide when is the best time to...put him to sleep...I went to bed at 8pm last night and slept for 12 hours, Ijust can't face the world. Charlie is a beautiful little creature, I've only had him and his brother (Bruce) since Christmas. Sounds silly for a woman my age to be so upset about a RAT...but he's more than a rat to me......
Annie
Same experience happened to me, but in a shorter time.
I found this one little baby bird at my older brother's house, and I named him Heart. I made him a home and gave him food and water. He never ate or drank anything I gave him, he only slept a lot. While reading, I watched him like a hawk and checked on him every once in a while. I went out to pick black berries and came back to check on Heart. I found that he was laying on his side and not looking very good. I was hoping he was sleeping, but the poor thing was dying. I tried feed him and giving him water by opening his beak up, but that only hurt him more. I realized he was going to die, so I went into my brother's room and sat on my bed holding Heart. To comfort the poor little guy before he passed on, I sang him songs about God and Heaven and how happy he would be up there with all the other birds. But get this, only when I sang him songs about God did he open his eyes to look at me. I think he knew I was singing about our Lord. The last words I said to him before I left the house were "Fly to God.". The next time I went over to my brother's house, his wife Danny said Heart didn't make it. But I know he is in Heaven now with all the other little birds not sick and suffering anymore. So that's comforting to me.
So yeah, I really wanted to keep Heart as a pet. As soon as I picked him up, I totally adopted him as my own. You see, I think of birds as my children and that's why I feed them and love to see them grow up from chicks into geese.
Some people do think of pets more than just pets, but as their children. They don't want to see them die. Just know that if Charlie does die, be comforted and know he is with the Lord God and you will see him again when you go to Heaven. He's in a better place now with all of his friends and family and you'll get to meet them when you go to Heaven.
Hope this helps. I'm here for ya'!
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Thank you Goldenrod....I have been crying all the time about Charlie, and now Bruce has a little sneeze sometimes....from what I've read on the internet about the condition, it could take weeks or months before he dies, but I don't want him to suffer and as soon as I see him starting to suffer I'll take him to the vet. Actually my husband said he'd take him there. But I've been loving them and playing with them today. Sometimes he sneezes more than others....I'll see what enquiries I can make at a vet who I know deals with rodants and maybe they can help. When I love a creature, I love it 200%. I won't kill spiders...I relocate them...I only kill flies, mosquitoes and cockroaches and I know feral mice that come into the house have to be killed...but generally I hate killing any creature. Even little bugs or worms I'll put somewhere safe in the garden. I'm too much of a softy. I think I can be harder about people than animals.
Thank you for your story about "Heart" it's lovely that you sang to him....
Smiles and hugs,
Annie
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I didn't realize you were an avoidant!! =O
yes, I suppose I hide it rather well online... 
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