What should I do?

jayebrownlee · #1 4th September 2003, 05:54 PM

as some of you know I have a psychiatric condition where by I don't know what is real and what is not and that goes for my memories too. I am learning to cope by asking people around me if what I am seeing/hearing/feeling is actually hapening however I have a predicament - I remember being abused (sexually) by my brother but it has been proven on more than one occasion that these memories are false, should I confront him or not. If he really has done this he will nto neccesarily admit to it and if he hasn't I could really hurt him by telling what I think he has done. At the moment I do not speak to him as I do not know whether I can trust him or not.

I am at a loss

Jay

doofus125 · #2 4th September 2003, 06:35 PM

Originally Posted by jayebrownlee

as some of you know I have a psychiatric condition where by I don't know what is real and what is not and that goes for my memories too. I am learning to cope by asking people around me if what I am seeing/hearing/feeling is actually hapening however I have a predicament - I remember being abused (sexually) by my brother but it has been proven on more than one occasion that these memories are false, should I confront him or not. If he really has done this he will nto neccesarily admit to it and if he hasn't I could really hurt him by telling what I think he has done. At the moment I do not speak to him as I do not know whether I can trust him or not.

I am at a loss

Jay

Well, it's a tough situation....I have never been able to face the guys that sexually assaulted and raped me and they were what I thought friends......being he is family, maybe you need to talk to him...if he knows your health condition he should handle it ok. the thing to remember is this....tell him that if he did that you do forgive him and you need to forgive him, if it was when you were younger and he was a teenager (11-14ish) it was the boy curiosity that caused him to abuse you.....alot of boys/teens don't understand or know how to handle their hormones and they act out on them hurting people close to them.....I knwo it's painful, but you need to talk to him......just tell him that you need closure on this in your mind so you can move on.....

urbanfaerie · #3 4th September 2003, 06:36 PM

hmm.. well if you don't remember, consider it a blessing, and forget, forgive him..tho thats easier said then done..

if you feel these memories are true..theres isn't a whole lot you can do..cept maybe turn him in, i dunno how it works here ur from tho..

what does ur therapist tell you to do?

desi · #4 4th September 2003, 11:52 PM

You should probably address it in case he does this to other people. I just don't know the best way to go about it. If you ask him he might just lie since he knows about your condition. If you tell authorities they could blow you off because of your condition or get him in trouble if it is a false memory. Tough call, pray on it.

jayebrownlee · #5 5th September 2003, 11:20 AM

for the reccord my brother was a grown man when all of these things happened (there are 22 years between us)

Jay

doofus125 · #6 5th September 2003, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by jayebrownlee

for the reccord my brother was a grown man when all of these things happened (there are 22 years between us)

Jay

I'm sorry to hear that....I think you need to confront him because that means he had to be around 22-35 when/if he did that.....there is no telling if he could have done that to anyone else and you need to confront him before he strikes again with someone else.......