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3rd September 2003, 09:51 AM
| | |  Ten Things a Husband Can Do When His Wife Feels Overwhelmed or Frustrated
Here is some advice that can help you navigate these waters successfully, including a few good lines that always work. Say them to your wife in any order, and then pray for her. - "I love you."
- "You are the greatest woman in the world to me."
- "You're beautiful when you're moody." (Maybe you shouldn't use the word "moody." "Upset" might be a better choice.)
- "Tell me what's on your mind, and I promise not to get mad."
- "How have I let you down?"
- "How can I make it up to you?"
- "Have you been getting enough sleep?"
- "What would make you happy right now?"
- "I don't have all the answers. But God does."
- "Do you want to pray about this together?"
Taken from: The Power of a Praying Husband / Copyright © 2001 by Stormie Ormatian
Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, OR / Used by Permission.
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3rd September 2003, 10:50 AM
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Reps: 1,535,466,883,506 (power: 0) | | Originally Posted by babygirl789 Here is some advice that can help you navigate these waters successfully, including a few good lines that always work. Say them to your wife in any order, and then pray for her. - "I love you."
- "You are the greatest woman in the world to me."
- "You're beautiful when you're moody." (Maybe you shouldn't use the word "moody." "Upset" might be a better choice.)
- "Tell me what's on your mind, and I promise not to get mad."
- "How have I let you down?"
- "How can I make it up to you?"
- "Have you been getting enough sleep?"
- "What would make you happy right now?"
- "I don't have all the answers. But God does."
- "Do you want to pray about this together?"
Taken from: The Power of a Praying Husband / Copyright © 2001 by Stormie Ormatian
Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, OR / Used by Permission.
I'm sorry. I just can't resist. Based on almost 30 years of marriage, here are some expected replies:
1. "Oh please. I'm not in the mood and that's not going to get me there."
2."That won't work either."
3. "What?!?!? I'm moody?!?!? Why you little........"
4. What's on my mind? I'll tell you what's on my mind! YOU should be cleaning the kitchen once in a while. That's what's on my mind. Oh and make sure you don't get mad while you clean it."
5. "See above".
6. "See above again - sheeesh you're dense."
7. "Grrrrrrrrrrrrr."
8. " A clean kitchen!!!! Are you listening?!?!?"
9. Honey, please pay attention - I don't need all the answers......just......help.......with.......the.......housework."
10. "Lord, give me strength." |
3rd September 2003, 11:48 AM
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Reps: 6,479 (power: 18) | | Originally Posted by MichaelFJF I'm sorry. I just can't resist. Based on almost 30 years of marriage, here are some expected replies:
1. "Oh please. I'm not in the mood and that's not going to get me there."
2."That won't work either."
3. "What?!?!? I'm moody?!?!? Why you little........"
4. What's on my mind? I'll tell you what's on my mind! YOU should be cleaning the kitchen once in a while. That's what's on my mind. Oh and make sure you don't get mad while you clean it."
5. "See above".
6. "See above again - sheeesh you're dense."
7. "Grrrrrrrrrrrrr."
8. " A clean kitchen!!!! Are you listening?!?!?"
9. Honey, please pay attention - I don't need all the answers......just......help.......with.......the.......housework."
10. "Lord, give me strength."  That's so sad...if my husband were going out of his way to show me some love and attention, there is no way I would talk to him like that... 
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3rd September 2003, 01:53 PM
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3rd September 2003, 05:03 PM
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"There better be a good reason why the dishes are not washed."
"What are you so bent out of shape about?"
"You look upset, want to talk about it?" no "Good neither do I."
"I'm sick of this nonsense. What's wrong with you!" |
3rd September 2003, 05:53 PM
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3rd September 2003, 06:22 PM
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Reps: 869 (power: 0) | | MichaelFJF, your "responses" cracked me up, and if you crossed me at the wrong time, would probably be how I responded too! LOL Okay, maybe not...but I'd probably be thinking it!!!
Kelly...I like your way of thinking! |
3rd September 2003, 07:18 PM
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4th September 2003, 05:30 AM
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Reps: 1,069,264,358,200,968,576 (power: 1,069,264,358,200,985) | | Originally Posted by MichaelFJF I'm sorry. I just can't resist. Based on almost 30 years of marriage, here are some expected replies:
1. "Oh please. I'm not in the mood and that's not going to get me there."
2."That won't work either."
3. "What?!?!? I'm moody?!?!? Why you little........"
4. What's on my mind? I'll tell you what's on my mind! YOU should be cleaning the kitchen once in a while. That's what's on my mind. Oh and make sure you don't get mad while you clean it."
5. "See above".
6. "See above again - sheeesh you're dense."
7. "Grrrrrrrrrrrrr."
8. " A clean kitchen!!!! Are you listening?!?!?"
9. Honey, please pay attention - I don't need all the answers......just......help.......with.......the.......housework."
10. "Lord, give me strength."
LOL!
Excellent first post by the way!!! Number 4 tends to work in our marriage so long as his eyes don't glaze over when I start talking 
Michael, that was just too funny! I confess in response to 1 through to 10 I usually alternate between "what have you done to my PC?", "what did you break in the kitchen?" and "what game do you want to buy now?"
God bless
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4th September 2003, 05:38 AM
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