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That's not a bad idea.

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I wasn't that spoiled as a child. My friends would always be taken to the store and they would leave with a new toy--- that was never me! I only got toys on special occasions. It isn't that they didn't have money to fund it but they were just extremely tight on things that they didn't deem necessary.

I think now I am pretty spoiled. My parents have not forced me to get a job at all. They are also going to be paying for pretty much everything till I get a real career. My brother was the same way. I do think I am spoiled now but not overwhelmingly. My parents still stay within their means on what they can give us kids. I didn't get a brand new car on my 16th-- but I did get a car, etc...

I was not spoiled. The only time I feel jealous of the spoiled kids is when I see them get a job handed to them within a month of graduation.

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In today's terms, no I wasn't spoiled. But my parents have always done their best by me and given me everything that I've needed and a lot of things that I just wanted. But they always expected me to do my part, and if I acted like a brat I likely wasn't going to get anything.

I don't feel jealous of spoiled people, more irritated by people who carry the attitude that things should just be handed to them for no reason other than "all girls are princesses" or something dumb like that. Of course I wouldn't have minded getting a brand new car worth 50 grand when I turned 16. But I guess I'm more glad that my mind wasn't spoiled by excess.

Yeah, I was spoiled. I think some of it had to do with the fact that I got very sick with Lyme disease when I was really little. But then again, my younger brother is pretty spoiled, too.

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Originally Posted by ChildofGod1586

I was spoiled but not in the sense that I expected things to just be given to me. I was still expected to help out around the house and be thankful whenever I got something. While my parents did spoil me, at the same time they taught me that whatever it was just did not appear out of thin air. If you want something you have to work for it.

But the main reasons I was spoiled was because my parents struggled a lot with money, and to make up for the periods that we didnt have money my siblings and I were spoiled when the money was available which probably was just a vicious cycle that caused more problems.

I don't get any help from my parents now though, I do pay pretty much everything on my own. While sometimes I do struggle with that because I have to work 50 hrs a week just to attend school and pay living expenses I am aware that I will appreciate what I am working for much more.

Yeah, I was not spoiled to the point that I expected things to be given to me, either. Like you, I did chores and stuff. I also started working when I was pretty young.

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That is not being spoiled and whoever tells you so doesn't have a clue. The media tries to put it on as being spoiled because people are more and more in favour of parents kicking kids out of the house at 18 (hence why today's generation is one of the worst morally ever, divorce rates are huge, and problem after problem occurs). My parents are the same way as yours, they have supported me in every area from living to schooling until I am able to launch on my own. But all of a sudden parents supporting their children after they are 18 is evil and all kids are spoiled--biggest lie alive. If a parent loves their child and supports them through thick and thin it only shows how good of parents they are. The ones who stop supporting and force their kids into salvaging into their own are the lazy ones who only look after themselves.

Nope, I don't think I was spoiled. I didn't expect my parents to give me the things I wanted.

I did have fun stuff though like a go cart, a swimming pool, trampoline, and a pony. Which will make people think I was spoiled but I had to rebuild the carburetor on the go cart before it would run and learn to maintain it myself. If i didn't my dad was going to sell it. The swimming pool was my dad's idea because my sister's immune system is compromised so public pools make her ill within days of swimming there. The trampoline was a rusted old thing that friends of my dad's had when he was a little boy. And the pony was a package deal with a goat. She was about 11 years old when we got her and I had to clean the stall out every weekend until I got a paying job and even then I was still expected to do most of the care for her. A car was purchased for me as a gift when I learned to drive but it was a 1974 MGB GT that only started if it liked you. Most of the time you had to smack the fuel pump with a rubber mallet to get it to start.

I watched so many kids in my school get handed brand new Volvo's and Mercedes that I wanted to get sick. Not because I was jealous of what their parents gave them but because I saw how poorly they treated their parents and how they could have cared less about taking care of what they did receive.

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Originally Posted by eirene

Are you spoiled? Were you as a child? What reasons are/were behind the special treatment? Do you see the deeper reasons behind it? Does it matter to you?

If not, do you ever feel envious of people who have things handed to them?

Interesting topic Eirene! About what is perceived as being 'spoilt' by today's society, and why.

Why do you ask the question?

So, because my parents choose not pay my rent or buy my food they are "lazy ones who only look after themselves?" Because they have instilled in me a work ethic they are lazy?

Some parents can not afford to help out their kids with school and living expenses, my parents are some of those people. But I can guarantee that if they had the money they would help me any way that they could.

Also, some people CHOOSE to move out at 18 or so. They want to get out and start their own lives.

I am not saying that people who have help from the parents are spoiled, I think thats great. But don't call parents who can't afford the cost of living for another person lazy, thats just wrong.