Creative Singleness

pinPoint · #1 25th July 2003, 03:10 AM

"I think we should break up," he softly said. Those were the words I'd been dreading for months. "I'm ready to start seeing other people."
Her trembling fingers tightened around the phone cord, and She chocked back the sob that threatened to explode from her tightening lungs. There was a long, awkward pause as he waited for her to speak. Her only consolation was that he could not see her pale face. She would never have been able to hide her devastated expression had he been in the room at that heart-wrenching moment.
The nightmare had come true...again. What had started out as a harmless, fun, innocent relationship had slowly become a complicated entanglement for emotion and passion, only to end abruptly now that the fire had faded. The cutting pain that ruthlessly squeezed her heart was so intense She could scarcely breathe. Somehow, She managed to end the phone call with at least a small amount of dignity. As She placed the receiver into its cradle, a dark cloud of despair overcame her, mercilessly pouring a violent torrent of rejection and hopelessness into her reeling mind. Once again... She was alone.
You have searched for true love in your own way. But My ways are not your ways. I want to script a beauty_full tale just for you, but first you must trust Me with the pen of this precious area of your life. Will you let Me write your love story?
Jean and Kirsty are two bright young women from the "land down under." Jean, a recent college graduate and new art teacher, and Kirsty, a policewoman in training, have been best friends for many years. Their fun-loving personalities and unmistakable Australian accents make them two very entertaining people to converse with. During their recent visit to America they talked in depth about their journeys as single women.
"God has really made it clear to me that the reason I still haven't found the right guy is because He's not finished preparing me for marriage," Jean said in her cute, cuddly voice. "Right now I'm just learning to be God's princess. He is showing me that I am enough, as I am, even if I never get married."
Is it easy? Not at all As Kirsty put it, "I dream of the man I'm going to marry all the time. Jean and I like to imagine what type of guys we are waiting for. We talk about the most important character qualities we want our future husbands to have. But sometimes it gets so disheartening. There just don't seem to be too many men with real integrity! It's easy to feel like we're waiting for something that doesn't exist."
In addition to the problem of not seeing available godly men anywhere in sight, another issue we girls have had to face is disapproval from others.
"We've been told that our standards are too high. We've been told that we'll never get married if we don't go out there, meet men, and make ourselves available," Jean said with discouragement in her eyes. **
But Jean and Kirsty have remained steadfast, waiting for God to write a love story for each of them, if He should choose to, in His perfect time. And they've even had fun with their commitment to wait!
"Every Valentine's Day, instead of letting ourselves be all depressed because we're single, we make valentine love letters for our future husbands," Kirsty said with joy on her pretty face. "We have a great time doing it, and it reminds us that this season of our life has a purpose. We save all these letters to give to our husbands someday."
Now that's creative singleness! Jean and Kirsty's journey of pain mixed with hope is the essense of what singleness is all about. It's not easy. But it has a profound purpose. And someday, with love in His gentle eyes, their Lord will reward them for their faith_full_ness. In that moment, it will be worth it all for Jean and Kirsty.

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