And one thing: guys should never force girls to do anything. Its not exactly painful for the male, is it? The males part in sex is a lot easier than what the girl has to do to get ready for sex, so he better not be demanding!
And it's helpful if each partner assumes they will have to teach the other what feels good to them.
I suspect many guys who are not sexually experienced don't know how to be gentle at first, we don't know what the issues are. It's good for the guy to be aware that there are issues and that he has a few things to learn, and I think it's also good for the girl to be ready to gently instruct him.
I was married for over 20 years, I hope I've learned the basics ;->
But there are always individual differences. Teach each other how you want to be treated!
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It clothes the naked * It feeds the hungry * It comforts the sorrowful
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I've had lots of sex, but since I decided to be a true Chrisitan and wait I've become incredibly nervous about the thought of having sex with my FH.
I expect it will be beautiful, but I'm just worried it will be a complete disaster and after all these years of waiting we'll both be disappointed.
And then other times, I just think, "COME ON!!!! LET ME AT HIM!" oooh I didn't realise I just said that! lol
I am nervous about the wedding night. I have only been a Christian for 10 months and I have had sex before. I think it is so special now, which is why I am nervous. i'm getting married in June so my fiancee are open about it. I thikk this is the best way to overcome nerves!
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