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1st December 2006, 05:45 PM
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But walk the walk in their Christian lives
Leave it at that!
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1st December 2006, 06:49 PM
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Reps: 5,019,472,865,442,292 (power: 5,019,472,865,451) | | Originally Posted by stormgade4  I might have to echo some of the other comments.
I believe our past sins are forgiven (and Lord knows I have many). For me, like Tuffguy and Barren alluded, a person's past is a factor for me. As such, I prefer not to consider single mothers. Nothing against them, God bless them, but they aren't for me. I saw my old roommate struggle with one and wanted to spare myself. If I catch flack for this, so be it. For me, it's a preference, not requirement.
The nonvirgin issue is less of one. This doesn't fase me as much. Just depends on the person's history. If they messed up and then got saved, then full speed ahead.
Don't worry mate, I with you, Tuffguy, and Barren on this argument. Some choices a girl has made in her past can easily be overlooked. If she used to be someone who enjoyed going to parties and having to many drinks, and (while not someone who'd "slept around") had sex a couple of times, I could overlook that.
But the heavier issues such as what Stormgate, Tuffguy, and Barren mentioned, are ones that have definite ramifications in the present. And while forgiveness is not an issue, I don't think it's unChristian to want to spare oneself from getting that baggage.  |
1st December 2006, 08:28 PM
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Reps: 4,860 (power: 14) | | Originally Posted by bella_song I suppose this is a question mostly for the guys. If you knew a girl who was a very committed Christian and you liked her, but then you found out that she had a history before she was a Christian, what would your reaction be?
Bella
God's grace and mercy meets you where you are  I'll probably catch flack for this, but oh well. In the future, if I end up liking a girl and find out that she has a history of depression and low self esteem, I'm gonna run the other direction.
I'm not trying to fall for somebody who cuts with razors, sticks their finger down their throat, or starves themselves
No flack form me either-- a female with these issues as cutting, and eating disorders is not just suffering form a bit of depression or self worth-- they are mentally ill and are the last people who can thrive in a a relationship.
Geez why all the downer threads...8^)
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1st December 2006, 09:42 PM
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Reps: 248 (power: 0) | | Originally Posted by bella_song I suppose this is a question mostly for the guys. If you knew a girl who was a very committed Christian and you liked her, but then you found out that she had a history before she was a Christian, what would your reaction be?
I would want the same reaction for a Lady as I would give her on this issue. I would say that (and so does God's Word BTW) that when we come to Christ our sins are cast as far as the East is from the West. They are remembered no more.
The only thing that I would/and do have a problem w/ is divorce. (but that is for a different thread) |
1st December 2006, 11:21 PM
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Reps: 1,540 (power: 8) | | | Just wanted to say I agree on the divorce thing. Marriage isn't a sin, so it can't be "forgiven" or "cast away". Therefore once you marry you are married to that person until one of you dies. The Bible says this. I for one don't agree with these new teachings that it's ok to be remarried while your true spouse lives.. That's anti-Bible, anti-God. |
1st December 2006, 11:57 PM
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Reps: 2,458,194,068,618,537,472 (power: 2,458,194,068,618,559) | | Originally Posted by CLRichardson Just wanted to say I agree on the divorce thing. Marriage isn't a sin, so it can't be "forgiven" or "cast away". Therefore once you marry you are married to that person until one of you dies. The Bible says this. I for one don't agree with these new teachings that it's ok to be remarried while your true spouse lives.. That's anti-Bible, anti-God.
Are you sure you want to go there? If so, one could just as easily say that anyone who has had sex shouldn't marry (unless they marry the *one* person they had the fling with). After all, being joined as "one flesh" is marriage in God's eyes. Following your logic, to marry somebody else would be considered fornication. |
2nd December 2006, 02:19 AM
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Reps: 1,540 (power: 8) | | After all, being joined as "one flesh" is marriage in God's eyes.
No it's not.
Argument debunked.  |
2nd December 2006, 07:33 AM
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Reps: 885,038,865,101,763,840 (power: 885,038,865,101,798) | | Originally Posted by CLRichardson No it's not.
Argument debunked.
Because you said so?
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2nd December 2006, 08:16 AM
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Reps: 4,860 (power: 14) | | | It really is sad that things turn this way in threads like this.
I get everyone has their opinions but does it has to get to a point of belittling others and their situations.There are posters like twisted who say their preference w/o damaging anyone self worth.
This place just seems to be so anti positive right now.The negitivity is consuming..
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2nd December 2006, 11:59 AM
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Reps: 248 (power: 0) | | | I tried not to be the one to derail it, and will not go any further than my OP. | | |
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