When Is Enough Enough?

Hello Everyone!

I'm new as of today. 

I'd like to get some Christian biblical input and possible clarity, regarding divorce and remarriage as it relates to "deception" before and during the marriage, and biblical "grounds" for divorce.

SCENARIO: 

Boy claims he's "spiritual;" conduct doesn't "square" with claims, i.e. sexually violates the girl; boy covers up with "spirituality," i.e. GOD spoke to me, told me this was appropriate, etc., etc., etc.; continues to sexually violate girl; "bombards" girl with "spiritual" deception, i.e. Eastern philosophy & New Age nonsense, myths, claims of GOD-given "dreams, impressions, revelations, visions," etc., etc., etc.; marries girl to do the "right" thing before GOD. 

Girl isn't "grounded" in the Christian faith, buys the "lie," marries the boy even though he repulses her (she has "self-worth" issues obviously), is married to the boy for 23 years, discovers boy's "secrets," some of which are "sexually impure;" moves out; simultaneous to discovering secrets, meets a man, gets emotionally, psychologically, and physically involved; ceases "involvement" with other man; lives alone for three years struggling with idea of divorce; divorces husband; accepts JESUS CHRIST personally for the first time in her life; has not been in contact with other man for sometime; continues to live alone.

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I believe there is something in the OT&nbsp;that&nbsp;addresses&nbsp;"fraud"&nbsp;in marriage, however, I would like some&nbsp;"clarification" and "objective" input if anyone would be willing to address this?

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Boy does THAT bring back memories! For me, it was only eight years, not 23, but I kinda had the same thing happen to me. When I was tossing around the idea for divorce, I encountered all kinds of points of view. I heard alot that "God hates divorce" and that "God can heal your marriage". I was left with guilt, sadness, frustration, and a terrible indecision.

The Bible says that the only "reason" fro divorce is in the event of adultery. That means, one spouse hs a intimate relationship with someone else. What an intimate relationship is can vary according to your beliefs. The other stuff about adultery that Paul writes about can get very confusing, especially if you are in the middle of it. You may think, "Glory, I get divorced so that means if I ever remarry I will be committing adultery?!?!?!"

Consult your pastor about this one. But what I believe is that if the marriage is ended for reasons of adultery, then the covenant is broken...period. In the above scenario that you wrote about, the woman should by all means keep herself sexually pure until she is married. And if she continues to keep God the number one man in her life, He will make sure she knows what He wants her to do. The biggest thing God wants is to bless us. And my second husband who is lying on the couch holding our baby right now is evidence to me of that. I feel doubly blessed in my second marriage.

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E-Beth,

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR REPLY!

I'm continuing in !

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&nbsp; P.S. I may be back with MORE questions, commentaries, etc.!



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I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AS WELL..............

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&nbsp; Greg,

Thank you SO MUCH!

The most difficult part at this time, is not calling the&nbsp;other man,&nbsp;whom I&nbsp;SORELY MISS! &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;That was the first&nbsp;"mutual" relationship I've ever known apart from my parents and siblings.&nbsp; I know this is going to sound cliche, but it FEELS as though a "part" of me is MISSING!&nbsp; At the same time I&nbsp;know the Great COMFORTER, the HOLY SPIRIT dwells in me and that JESUS is sufficient for ALL my needs.&nbsp; It's the&nbsp;"human" COMPANIONSHIP, i.e.&nbsp;walking, talking, sharing,&nbsp;that I MISS,&nbsp;just like Adam in&nbsp;Paradise.&nbsp; He had&nbsp;"complete" companionship with&nbsp;the LORD and yet&nbsp;he longed for "his kind."&nbsp;

Again, THANK YOU!

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