What Constitutes Sex Before Marriage?

Hi All, 


My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years.  For the first 2 years of our relationship we were sleeping together, however as we began to begin a true relationship with God, we stopped (obviously not an easy thing to do). 

Whilst no longer having sex in the 'traditional' sense, we still do fool around ie. more than just hugging and kissing, which up until recently we thought was ok.  

Just wondering peoples opinions as to whether, in the eyes of God, 'fooling' around with a partner is the same as having sex in the 'traditional' sense. 

 

   

I have absolutely, positively, no idea. Ask God; He's the expert.

The boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable are so hugely dependant on culture and upbringing that I really don't have a framework for answering you; the question of whether or not having sex before you marry is sinful is not one directly addressed by the Bible; it's just a cultural norm we have.

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Sex is for marriage? What is sex? I believe that sex is anything where you touch a part of your partner that is not yours. But that is oversimplified.

I personally believe that physical involvement (and I mean all physical involvement - kissing, cuddling, foreplay, intercourse, oral and whatever) should only be for the marriage bed - should only be for after marriage and not before.  



Hebrews 13:4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

 

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Good answer Hotknikkels.

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I desire that my life be a part of a generation that lives for the glory of Your name. (Paraphase of Psalm 86:11-12)
Louvar-te-ei, Senhor Deus meu, de todo o meu coração, e glorificarei o teu nome para sempre. (Salmo 86:11)

“God’s problem is not that God is not able to do certain things. God’s problem is that God loves. Love complicates the life of God as

Sounds like from what you have written that you know the answer to your own question.
There's more to this than simply, "It's wrong."
It becomes the focus of a relationship and you end up neglecting much more important parts. I got wrapped up in a deal like this and wound up dating a girl for a year and a half when if I had had my head on straight we would have lasted 3 maybe 4 months. Thank the good Lord I didn't marry her. She was a sweet girl, but we didn't work together. It took moving away to college to realize that.

Hey been in your boat before my friend. I found out to that sex before marriage was wrong, and so I stopped and ask forgivness of my sins, and to be cleansed from the unholyness I have committed. Despite all that, we still fool around..... were only humans. I think that doing that stuff is wring to, but we don't do it as much, plus now we look forward to spending a life time with God together. I am glad you too cut out the sex. You can cut out the other stuff too, you just have to find out if it is that important to you. If so, then pray to God. If not, then more power to you. Remember God loves you, pray often!

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I am praying for you and that God will bless you both. Amen!

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“God’s problem is not that God is not able to do certain things. God’s problem is that God loves. Love complicates the life of God as

Now I can promise you most people will disagree with my post; but I want to share my thoughts with you

If you and your girlfriend are in a committed and loving relationship; I believe that "fooling around" is ok. I believe that so long as you stay within your comfort boundries, of which you need to personally talk to God () about and then you, God and your heart can decide what is far enough for the two of you to go!

For my boyfriend and I, we live together. We don't have a lot of lines that can't be crossed, and we are both fine with that. But Those are things I have personally worked out with God... so follow your heart hun!

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But don't follow your heart if your heart tells you to disobey God!

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