A question for you women out there.......

This is a strange question that's going to be asked of you ladies out there......but have any of you ever had a problem with young men (really i guess teenagers or very early 20's) staring at your feet during church?  I know that sounds strange, but I have become aware of a young man in my church who somehow makes it a point to look at my feet.  I've tried to read about this a little to try and understand what's going on with him.  I think he is experiencing something called a fetish, or something like that.  Whatever it is, it's becoming quite uncomfortable to be anywhere where I'm in the same vicinity with him.  As one of our church organists, I normally change from my heels into slippers in order to play the pedals on the organ better, and i have noticed that sometimes when I looked up he was right there while I was changing shoes.  And I know that if any of you wear heels, that once in a while you may slip a shoe off once in a while without even thinking about it just to ease your aching toes!  I want to approach him on this and confront him, but I don't want to do it in a mean-spirited or offensive way.  I'm hoping that since he is young, it is just a phase he is going through, and i don't want to embarass him.  I know that as our adolescent children are growing up, they have feelings within them that can easily be misguided and it seems to me that he has put emphasis and focus on some inner feelings or experience he has and they are directed to the wrong places.  Should I talk to him?  The parents?  This is not necessarily something that's hampering my walk with God, but I'm concerned about this person, and what kinds of situations he could get himself into from him continuing these actions.

Just as an addition to what I said above.....I am concerned that this young man is using me as an object for lust......and I what to try and figure out a way so that he will not look at me or other women that way, as I figure if he is looking at me in this way, there are other ladies in the church, or even outside the church, that he does this too.  He may not even be aware that he has made himself so obvious in his actions.

I have never encounter this but I will pray that GOD would put HIS words in your mouth and the bolness to confront this guy and to do it in the right way not harsly.

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I am told I stare at people too . I am not aware of it as i am thinking about something else.
I would just ask him --why are you staring at my feet. ?He ll probably mumble shrug and say I don t know. then you can say firmly--well it makes me feel uncmfortable so knock it off.
if he does it again tell him again and if it continues tell his parents.

just going by Didy... ask him why he is staring at your feet, if he shrugs, confront him. just tell him to stop in a nice way. im sure he will stop. I will be praying for you to find the right guidance concerning the situation. Have a nice day.

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Maybe he is an ankle type of guy.....

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sorry

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I've had a similiar situation, where the guy just stared and I boldy asked him what are you looking at and then said I would very much appreciate if you would focus on something other than me. Praise God it stopped.

Mary B.

Why must you be so harsh, Susan? Different people have different likes and dislikes. Is he acting innapropriate? yes. Is his behavior sinful? If he is lusting after her, yes. Liking feet rather than the areas that most men like is not what I would call "sick". Different is not necessarily wrong.

I would talk to his youth pastor. You should not confront him yourself. He should know that he is making you feel uncomfortable. He should know that this needs to stop. he also needs someone to talk to about this. His parents probably are not someone he can talk to. Ignoring it is not going to be helpful in the long run. He is at a turning point right now. he can come to the understanding that he is a "foot person" as some men are "rear-end people" but that this preference does not give him a license to sin or make others feel uncomfortable. Or, he can become a "sicky". He needs guidance. And love and prayer.

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I'm sorry, then

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