The things you want in your match?

cloudstrife007 · #11 13th September 2006, 11:03 AM

Yeah, someone who will like me for who I am. Someone who I'll be attracted to, not just physically, but spiritually and mentally aswell.

Just like to point out something from a sermon I heard a while ago about life partners. We are praying to God to give us the right person, let us know who the right one is, we have all these expectations of the right one for us. But have we looked at ourselves and asked if we're the right one for the other person?

Godssong · #12 13th September 2006, 01:05 PM

Originally Posted by cloudstrife007

Yeah, someone who will like me for who I am. Someone who I'll be attracted to, not just physically, but spiritually and mentally aswell.

Just like to point out something from a sermon I heard a while ago about life partners. We are praying to God to give us the right person, let us know who the right one is, we have all these expectations of the right one for us. But have we looked at ourselves and asked if we're the right one for the other person?

True, true! My best friend and I have often had that discussion..."Why would this 'perfect' man WANT ME???"

Sleaker · #13 13th September 2006, 06:58 PM

Lets It's been a while since I thought about these.. But I think it's good to know what you are really looking for so here it goes..

Things I look for,
Loves the Lord
Prophecies
Shorter than me! I'm only 5'7" yah know..
Athletic!

twistedsketch · #14 13th September 2006, 07:23 PM

A partner who will stand with me and by me. This means she needs to be:

A Christian who is serious about her faith and lives it.

Intelligent, prudent, trustworthy, feminine, and graceful (see Prov 14:1, 19:14, 21:19, 31:10-31)

Similar and compatible as far as values are concerned (no liberals).

Creative, to help inspire me. I really would like to date a female photographer.

Someone I can laugh and have fun with.

Sexually pure before the marraige, regular and faithful within the marraige. (Prov. 5:15-19, 1 Cor 7:3-5)

Beautiful.

Maybe a bit outgoing. Otherwise there'd be too many strange silences and we'd never move past hanging out!

Sleaker · #15 13th September 2006, 07:25 PM

Originally Posted by twistedsketch

Intelligent, prudent, trustworthy, feminine, and graceful (see Prov 14:1, 19:14, 21:19, 31:10-31)

I love the Proverbs references I might have to adobt some of those

Jedi · #16 13th September 2006, 07:29 PM

1.) Confident. She has to be her own person, able to take care of herself (though it would be nice if she were willing to let me take care of her from time to time). I like taking care of a young lady as much as the next guy, but to spend most of my time doing "damage control," fighting her battles, and figuring things out for her... it drains the life out of me after a while.

Last girlfriend was really needy to the point where I had to ask permission to have 30 minutes of free time to myself a day... that's killer.

2.) Christian. How could I expect to share my life with a person who did not share the core of who I am: Jesus Christ?

3.) Intelligent. We're not talking Einstein here, but there has to be someone behind the wheel.

4.) Sense of Humor. Life is just too short to take seriously all the time.

5.) Non-smoker. That's just disgusting. The very thought of kissing cigarette lips... blech.

6.) Relaxed. I'm a pretty laid back guy, so I would imagine it might be rather difficult to pair up with an up-tight person.

7.) Sex Drive. I know it sounds silly, but I'm not joking. She has to have some significant sex drive. I hear horror stories of girls who wouldn't care if they never had sex a day in their lives. I heard a story from a friend that this one guy's wife just laid on the bed on the honeymoon and said, "Let's get this over with." I swear, I'd rather be locked naked in an anti-gravity chamber with diarrhea than to be found in that scenario. God help us all.

8.) Theologically/Politically conservative or moderate. Those that are on the far left tend to clash far too often with me. I'd rather not have life be one long debate.

9.) Typically Girly. Manly girls just don't appeal too much to me, I'm afraid. As long as the "girliness" isn't taken way too extreme, it's a pretty good trait to have in attracting guys.

10.) Likes to cuddle. What can I say? I like to cuddle.

sandra8230 · #17 13th September 2006, 07:56 PM

Originally Posted by Jedi

I hear horror stories of girls who wouldn't care if they never had sex a day in their lives. I heard a story from a friend that this one guy's wife just laid on the bed on the honeymoon and said, "Let's get this over with." I swear, I'd rather be locked naked in an anti-gravity chamber with diarrhea than to be found in that scenario. God help us all.

lol

I donno about the anti-gravity thing. But the horror story is true. But it's not me-I don't mind not having sex as I'm not married, but if I get married-I'm a ... well ... gonna wear the guy out

Jedi · #18 13th September 2006, 08:02 PM

Haha, oh, you've made my day. Thank you for being yet another glimmer of hope on the subject of girls and sex drives. There's little else more terrifying to a guy than to hear of such nightmarish rumors of girls' general apathy toward sex.

Athalia · #19 13th September 2006, 11:58 PM

i agree with sandra.

jedid i dunno what kind of girls you hang out with but *wow* most girls i know are NOT like that.... but then again, maybe some christian girls feel that if they show an interest in the subject it would be bringing down the christian men to lust ... and we don't want that now do we? lol

Jedi · #20 14th September 2006, 12:02 AM

Haha, thanks, Athalia. Perhaps it's more of an impression Christian women give off than what they really feel. Still, such strong and constant impressions are hard to push aside and forget. That's why words of assurance such as yours are of great comfort to us guys.