This is a tough question for me to ask...........but

Okay, this is a REALLY embarassing question to ask and believe me I have wrestled with wether to even post this. I have no other "real" christian friends to ask here  at home. So I'm counting on you, my online friends.............

 Okay here goes, My husband and I have been pondering this question for some time and we can't seem to come up with any answers! (yes I'm stalling LOL) Here goes..... IS THERE ANYTHING BIBLICAL GOING AGAINST oral sex? oh boy this is sssoooooooo embarassing..............please help

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A GREAT website for the answer to your question is www.themarriagebed.com They give Biblical advice to all kinds of questions. Hope that helps!

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Oral sex-

First of all, we must realize that it really isnt sex. Sex, as God created it, is fruitful and unitive. Oral 'sex' and anal 'sex' do not embody this. Sex as God created it involves a giving of the self totally, faithfully, freely, and fruitfully (the 4 main vows). Sex is essentially the marriage vows become flesh. Sex is a one-flesh union, which points us toward the heavenly reality of being one with God.

Yet anal 'sex' and oral 'sex' are inherantly sexual in that they are immitations of the real thing. This is why they still should exist, if at all, only in a marriage.

Now, down to the moral or immoral aspect. There is nothing inherantly wrong about either. If a husband or wife wishes to perform oral sex on their partner, that is fine, but IT SHOULD NOT BE THE END. It should also not be something that one is forced into, or even pressured the least bit into. Because of the nature of love, it should be a gift of the self in one way or another, and it cant be a true gift even if you are slightly pressured. This goes to actual sex as well. I think of these more as foreplay. Sexual intimacy should be rooted in actual sex, because this is how we embody the marriage vows. Anal 'sex' and oral 'sex' are in all actuality imiations of the real thing. They should not distract us from what true sex is. That is why when we simply use these as summit of a sexual relionship, even just once, we are demeaning true sex, and being distracted from it, knowingly or not. The climax of a one-flesh union should be kept in the context of a true total, faithful, free, and fruitful gift of the self, and not an imitation which in reality does not do these.

Oral sex and anal sex do not generally seek mutual climax, and generally have the focus on the person receiving the oral sex and the man during anal sex. Because of this, it is generally not a two way give-and-take as is the true embodiment of sex. This is why what is truly defined as sex involves a full and true expression with the mind, body, and soul of the marriage vows.

I hope that makes sense and helps.

God bless

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It is mentioned in the Song of Songs.
I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Pray4Israel--I don't agree with everything either. They talk against hormone birth control, and I use the Pill and don't have a problem with it.

Malachi--I respectfully disagree with you. I believe that sex (oral, anal, ******l) in the confines of a marriage can be whatever the husband and wife agree it to be.

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The short answer to your question is "there is nothing specifically against it in the Bible". There are arguments for and against. My conclusion is, whatever you're both comfortable with is probably okay. Now, if, say, you're *not* comfortable with it, then pressuring you would be a Bad Thing. But apart from that, you have a fair amount of room for exploring, here.

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I looked for this today and was unable to find reference to it. Could you please tell me the chapter and verse number.


Cammie: I have not had the chance to check out this website, but I will. Thank you.

Thanks everyone, please feel free to continue, advice is always welcomed.

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One popular solution to these questions is to say "would you feel comfortable with Jesus watching you do this". I'm not sure how good a question this is, myself; I don't think I'd ever go to the bathroom, either. Tragically, an omnipresent God doesn't coexist well with a culture with a strong modesty ethic.

The Marriage Bed site is good. They may be wrong on some issues; all of us are sometimes wrong. Still, it's at least an attempt at approaching these questions from a Christian perspective, which is helpful.

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I think for a husband and wife in your privacy, it is fine and is your private business.

I do not believe it to be a sin.

OUtside of the marriage, I believe it to be wrong.

basically anything you and your husband do is fine as long as both are in agreement and it does not involve adding another person.

Oral sex is fine (in marriage). It is a legitimate question.

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