7 years later and I STILL don't know what to do...

inhisimage73 · #11 4th March 2007, 10:13 PM

Originally Posted by Pepperoni

I'm sorry that you had to go through this without (it sounds like anyway) very much support. It sounds as if you had a circle of friends, but that's not the same as a supportive family or supportive father of the child. That must have been tough. Maybe still is.

I did have a circle of friends, but that was all the support I had. I may still be harboring some anger and resentment towards the father...hmmm...interesting.... I'll have to do some heart searching and praying over that one.

Originally Posted by Pepperoni

My husband and I never talk about it. Never. Is that wierd? Sometimes I wonder if he even remembers. He must, though. How could he forget? I suspect he just doesn't want to upset me. Because believe me, it would.

Maybe he hasn't talked about it because it might be too painful for him to talk about it too. Maybe (prayerfully) this is the season to bring light into this area so both of you can heal...just a thought. I will certainly be praying for both of you

Pepperoni · #12 7th March 2007, 12:17 PM

Originally Posted by inhisimage73

I did have a circle of friends, but that was all the support I had. I may still be harboring some anger and resentment towards the father...hmmm...interesting.... I'll have to do some heart searching and praying over that one.

And who could blame you if you did? Even though I had a support system of one, I can honestly say I don't harbor any resentment towards anyone because the father did stand by me. I feel just the the opposite actually, I feel that (right or wrong) this is something that I made the decision to do and it bothers me to know that other people (my husband, the doctor) may be held responsible. For my mistake.

Originally Posted by inhisimage73

Maybe he hasn't talked about it because it might be too painful for him to talk about it too. Maybe (prayerfully) this is the season to bring light into this area so both of you can heal...just a thought. I will certainly be praying for both of you

I think that's possible, but he tends to take his cues from me. The fact that I've never spoken of it probably indicates to him that I would rather not discuss it. And he would be correct in that assumption. I don't even know what I would say about it. There's nothing that can be said or done now.