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18th July 2006, 04:38 PM
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| | Join Date: 17th July 2006
Posts: 18
Blessings: 107,466
Reps: 165 (power: 0) | | | We had issues in the beginning of our relationship, because mine is definitely quality time, and his is gifts. I never wanted to accept all those gifts from him all the time (I felt badly, since I couldn't afford to reciprocate), and since we were (and still are) in a long distance relationship, it was hard for me to accept not spending time with him. I've learned to accept gifts (and hey, who doesn't like getting presents) without feeling guilty, and we've made a concerted effort to spend as much time together as possible, even though it's a difficult and expensive drive between our two homes. |
19th July 2006, 12:07 AM
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Reps: 31,747,502,565,820,476 (power: 31,747,502,565,845) | | Originally Posted by Revenwyn We're both touch people, and when we're actually together it's good.
However we're also long distance right now.... for a year and a half total so far. We both miss our touch.
I know how you feel.  My BF and I are almost 1,000 miles apart and only get to see each other every so often.
My sweetie and I are both prodominately touch, but his second is Words of Affirmation and mine is Quality Time.
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19th July 2006, 01:29 AM
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Reps: 1,229,998,163,394 (power: 1,229,998,173) | | | I dont know our love languages and I dont see how it would help. But if I gave it a guess, I would say I am words of affirmation and he is touch.
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19th July 2006, 02:24 AM
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Reps: 4,731,095,798,419,927 (power: 4,731,095,798,433) | | Originally Posted by The Princess Bride I know how you feel. My BF and I are almost 1,000 miles apart and only get to see each other every so often.
My sweetie and I are both prodominately touch, but his second is Words of Affirmation and mine is Quality Time.
Yeah, we're 3,000 miles away, and only see each other for a week every 8 months or so.
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4th August 2006, 11:34 AM
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| | Join Date: 20th July 2006 Location: Australia
Posts: 766
Blessings: 135,430
Reps: 23,220 (power: 30) | | i just wanna say thanx for this thread it actually got my bf and i talking about it and i realise that our languages are slightly different so now i know how i can show him how much i love him in a more effective way 
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4th August 2006, 01:33 PM
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| | Join Date: 12th November 2004 Location: CA
Posts: 5,093
Blessings: 123,331
Reps: 3,216,952,885 (power: 3,216,966) | | Mine is physical touch while his is quality time (surprise surprise  ). I didn't think it really had an effect on us (since my second is quality time and his is physical touch), until we went on our honeymoon and there were some different expectations about how we should be spending the time together.
After 2 or 3 days of mild resentment on my part we sat down and talked about it, and we realized our different expectations were due to our different love languages. He wanted us to go out and do things together, explore our surroundings etc, and while physical touch is very important to him (second), he felt that he would be equally happy allocating time to having new experiences with me (going to concerts, boating, visiting places of interest etc). While I do want to go out and have fun with him (and I did, following his plans), I actually prefer to sleep in late, cuddle, make love, even if it means we go out at noon or later. He agreed to cater to my love language more (since I was already catering to his), and the rest of the honeymoon was bliss .
Sorry for writing so much  .
Last edited by Seika; 4th August 2006 at 01:38 PM.
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19th July 2007, 05:47 PM
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| | Join Date: 11th June 2006 Location: Bay Area, California
Posts: 5,638
Blessings: 915,103
Reps: 84,711,793,417,990,176 (power: 84,711,793,418,002) | | | Now to reply since I'm in a relationship now. Our love languages are exactly the same:
1: Physical Touch
2/3: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time (interchangeable for us)
4: Acts of Service
5: Gifts | | |
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