Daughter is experimenting with cutting

lol hehehe sorry :-)

sus-suspicious
suss-get her stand on it
to suss her out basically means, just see where she stands with it, what she feels, thinks, etc :-) but like...quietly. Not obviously. See by her answers and actions, movements, etc howshe really feels. not obviously though. lol

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Your daughter is blessed to have a mother like you,talk to her and see if she will open up to you,I was a cutter for 21 years off and on.It sounds like your daughter is crying out for help,I hope that she doesn't feel the need to continue with any SI.I will pray for her,keep her lifted in prayer and ask the Lord to send her peace,heal her broken heart,and for her to try and talk before trying anything.If she isn't comfortable talking to you see if there is another adult that she would feel comfortable with,maby someone special in the church whom she's close to.Lord I lift up this sisters daughter,I ask that you give her peace,let her feel loved,and keep her safe.Surround her and her mother with guardian angels and ministering angels.Have your hand on the daughter let her know your there,I ask that you fill her with the holly ghost,Touch them both,give them peace.I ask this in the name of Jesus,amen.

Keep on loving her.

I good, solid place to start is www.selfinjury.com

It's the site of the SAFE program and the women who started it. Good resources.

while i was cutting, my biggest problem was that my parents didn't get me help. they wouldn't admit and they still wont admit that i have a problem. all i wish is that my parents would have helped me get through my addiction with cutting. my advice to you is to be there for her. be a shoulder for her to cry on. make sure she knows that you're always there for her no matter what. most importantly, pray about it with her.

~Alex

Don't assume anything, ask questions and be open to whatever her answers might be.

Some people "experiment" and find out that self-injury isn't the coping skill for them. Self-injury isn't exactly a nice or comfortable thing either, so hopefully your daughter's mind and body will encourage her to stop before she takes it too far.

It could just be her reaching out for help or her trying to figure out how to deal with things on her own. Ask her if she wants to talk about what is bothering her and maybe you could suggest she see a counselor if she doesn't want to talk with you or her dad about it. Give her options of who she can talk to - let her know she can talk to someone - but don't push her into doing something she isn't ready to do.

Don't deny the self-injury, but don't focus on it. Encourage her to express herself more and try listening too.

The best thing to do is try and talk with your daugher about it and give her options, don't force anything at this stage - you don't need her silencing herself even more or cutting where you can't see it (meaning, don't do "body checks" because those are simply degrading and a violation of privacy/ boundaries). Keep an eye out.

Maybe you could try family counseling to help with communication or something too. Obviously she is feeling the need to cope by doing something physical or she is trying to commuicate.

Keep on loving her...

I have been cutting since I was your daughter's age. I am now 21

My parents never saw it. Typical for my dad but I really am surprised my mom didn't know until she was told.

I have been in therapy for 3 years, on anti-depressants for 2 years and it is a battle. For me its like an addiction. Its taken a lot of hard work to get where I am and I still have a lot of work to do. I had many, many issues.

I can't help but think that if I had started therapy at your daughter's age, right after I started cutting, that things would have been a whole lot easier and the cutting would be a lot easier to stop.

I highly reccomend seeing about taking her to a therapist. I have a great Christian therapist who has helped me a ton, I've been seeing him 3 years. Make sure though if you do decide to do the therapy route that you find a therapist experienced in dealing with cutters. A lot aren't and some will even refuse to treat self injurers.

I started cutting when I was around 16 and it was mainly because of boyfriend problems. I didn't get any help and now I cut when I have husband problems. I am only now trying to get help. What a great Mom you are by wanting to help and understand the problem and not sweep it under the carpet and hope for the best. It must be scary as a parent to learn that your child is hurting themself after you have spent their entire life protecting them from every little scratch and bruise. I am no expert on the soloution to this as I haven't figured it out for myself yet. Just be there for her and assure her that God loves her and wants her to get well.

Hi. i'm 14 too. and i also cutt. and at school someone turned me in and the conselor called my parents. Alls i can say is......make it stop before it starts coz it can get bad. Shes fortunate enough that you caught it before it led to other things. Parents sometimes dont understand what their teens can go through. So....yea....i wish you all luck.

tell her taht you love her regardless....I don't know but i duopt its only her boyfriend thats causing her to cut. wwhats her family life like?

it could be but at the same time she might just want help but doesn't know how to ask. that's how it was for me. talk to her. it could help.

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