so lets talk about what we do to recover...

I have to constantly surrender to the Lord
I have to stay present in the Lord
I have to be aware of my thoughts
I have to pat myself on the back
I try to make other people smile
I have to avoid the negative self talk
Meditate that I'm talking to Jesus
I have to view myself as if I were looking at myself through the eyes of Jesus.
I have to exercise and maintain good nutrition
I focus on health
I maintain a journal
I get help when I know I need it

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One of the suggestions I have is to remember some truths about being in this situation.

One of the true things is that once in a while there will be a sudden memory of the event that will bring forth tons and tons of emotions.

Knowing that this can happen can be the best way to cope. But better, is having a plan for it if does. An example could be to tell husband, wives, friends, family, etc. that it could happen and tell them how you want them to help you if it does.

For me, I hate being hugged in situations like that. So it is good to say in advance if I say "don't hug me" please understand it is because I am feeling overwelmed and I need space right then.

This helps the other person not feel bad. It helps me not feel bad because they feel bad. It is hard enough to have overwelming feelings without having to feel bad because others don't understand how to help you best.

The other idea is to have a phrase or something to say to yourself when feeling upset.

I like the simple phrase "And this too will pass". It works for me. But there are many other ideas.

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i'm groovin with the "And this too will pass" phrase Xenia speaks of.

Doing something for someone else--such as taking a treat to a neighbor or shopping online for a gift for someone.

Bless you all for your suggestions.

My situation is a little bit different, I was hit by a drunk driver 4 months ago. And I can just now finally walk again. I like to talk to the members of the youth group in my church about what God does in times of tragity, and how God can make good use of bad situations. And also the importance of not drinking and driving. I like to think that God is using me as a living testimony, and that the poeple who ask me why I waddle like a panquin are the ones I can share Jesus's love with. This is a great thread! It is so difficult to understand why God let's bad things happen to good people, but I have gotten over it by trying to let Him use me for His glory!

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God bless you as you keep Him in your heart!
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Love from Klynn!

I'll probably get out of the house more than I do now and talk to more people face to face rather than just through a computer screen.
I've also had dreams- not just daydreams but actually dreams- about starting a retreat sorta place. I've noticed that helping people helps me feel better so hopefully I'll be a psychologist someday and be able to help more people and know more about what I'm doing.

Explosives. Go out to a blast range, envision something as the terrible, cruel person who did it. Then blow that thing sky high. It's actually very theraputic, though I think everyone who works at the blast range now thinks I have lost my mind when I cackle insanely and point at the smoke. (Actually, that IS an alarming indicator I've lost it. But laughter is supposed to be like a medicine, correct? So perhaps there is a method to the madness here.)

When I firstly started to fight, i ate a lot, food was a tool of healing,
Now i have to keep on getting a lot spiritual food, reading, music, hobby, whatever i can get, the more the better, cuz those darkness will still try hard to fight back to me.

Punching walls, and most deff. friends.

I am still healing... just a quick check-in on this thread.

"My" criminal has a warrant out for his arrest again. This time he robbed and assaulted someone and battered a policeman. I've been tracking him... so I heal with knowledge too!