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31st January 2006, 01:40 AM
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Hi, I would like to share a bit about the story of how crime had an effect on me even though I was not affected directly, and please add your own stories.
My mother's ex-husband killed most of my siblings. This was many, many years ago and nobody is the same. My mother and her ex-husband and my father are all dead now. I never met the siblings because they were killed before I was born.
I feel guilty because I should understand what a horrible toll this took on my mother for the years that she lived, but I needed a parent too. People say that I need to understand that she did what she could, but what she could do wasn't sufficient, and I'm still jealous. I'm okay now and I've made a living but sometimes I am bitter because I have to be the understanding saint and the one who takes care of things. My mother just survived; after this all happened she could barely function from then on until she died.
I'm not a direct survivor, but I'd just like to say that crime doesn't just affect the immediate families, it buries its roots in the hearts of those all around. |
1st February 2006, 11:28 PM
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2nd February 2006, 02:33 AM
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2nd February 2006, 03:20 AM
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my grandma and my dad commited suicide, it effects and upset my kids. they never knew them. family issues effect generations. you are right. 
__________________ His character: *compassion* the compassion of God's love is bigger than His wrath... invision His compassion: He calls you by name. seek His compassion: it bought you eternal life. exstend His compassion: we are His hands and feet; the salt and light of the earth. when touched by the compassion of the Father; accomplish great things. leave the compassion of the Father; miss great things. |
3rd February 2006, 12:34 AM
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