Hi, I would like to share a bit about the story of how crime had an effect on me even though I was not affected directly, and please add your own stories.
My mother's ex-husband killed most of my siblings. This was many, many years ago and nobody is the same. My mother and her ex-husband and my father are all dead now. I never met the siblings because they were killed before I was born.
I feel guilty because I should understand what a horrible toll this took on my mother for the years that she lived, but I needed a parent too. People say that I need to understand that she did what she could, but what she could do wasn't sufficient, and I'm still jealous. I'm okay now and I've made a living but sometimes I am bitter because I have to be the understanding saint and the one who takes care of things. My mother just survived; after this all happened she could barely function from then on until she died.
I'm not a direct survivor, but I'd just like to say that crime doesn't just affect the immediate families, it buries its roots in the hearts of those all around.
aaww *the biggest softest hug* you are a direct survivor hun. trauma and tragety have the effects of all sorts of emotions. it is part of our grieving prosess to exsperiance them. God bless you. God bless you through any grieving that lingers.
Thank you, goldenviolet. It has been many years and I do not suffer much anymore, but I want to remind people that crime doesn't end with the direct victims.
My heart goes out to you. I know what you mean... but our experiences just sometimes take their own route without anything we can do about it. So sorry your family had to go through this - it is really so sad.
__________________ "An inexhaustible good nature is one of the most precious gifts of heaven, spreading itself like oil over the troubled sea of thought, and keeping the mind smooth and equable in the roughest weather." ~Washington Irving
aaww *the biggest softest hug* you are a direct survivor hun. trauma and tragety have the effects of all sorts of emotions. it is part of our grieving prosess to exsperiance them. 
God bless you. God bless you through any grieving that lingers. 
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