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Old 18th June 2005, 04:35 PM
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Should a virgin marry a non virgin?

I'm no where near that point, but I only date for possible marriage hookups. I'm a virgin and the person I'm considering dating isn't. She has been a Christian all her life she had a really bad year and had sex with a couple guys. She's changed now and has the Jesus action all over the place. I am very condident she is true and is back on track with Jesus. I think that God put her in my life for a purpose, I just don't know what that purpose is. She really can help and has helped me with my walk with God.

Anyways, should I just date someone who isn't a virgin. Or should I hold out to find someone that is? Is it really all that important? I know it is for me. If someone as horny as me has held out all this time, I really expect to marry a chick that has also kept pure. It seems impossible to find a chick that hasn't had sex before. Should I compromise this marry a virgin thing?

Oh yeah. This is not the same girl I posted about earlier. What do you guys think? Any help would be sweet. Thanks.
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Old 18th June 2005, 04:42 PM
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There's a difference between someone who makes some mistakes and someone who fornicates shamelessly.

If you guys work then I don't believe this should be a problem.
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Is there anything in the Bible about only marrying virgins? Is it a sin to marry a non virgin? Where does this virgins only should marry virgins thing come from. Cause thats what I have stuck in my mind. I almost want to lose my virgininty so I can date more people.
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I say that if she is everything you say she is then she deserves a shot. Just because she made some mistakes (and i'm sure she repented of it) doesn't mean she is any less of a decent person. Ideally I would like to have someone that has waited for marriage but its more important to have a man that's God fearing and believes the same thing i do. This is one of the areas in life that can be compromised because a marriage is ultimately not about whether you two were virgins when you got married or not.

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Is there anything in the Bible about only marrying virgins? Is it a sin to marry a non virgin? Where does this virgins only should marry virgins thing come from. Cause thats what I have stuck in my mind. I almost want to lose my virgininty so I can date more people.
It's not a sin to date someone who is not a virgin. There is nothing biblical to back that. I don't know where the odd thought that virgins should date virgins... it's pretty ridiculous to me especially when there may have been circumstances in a person's life that may have stolen their innocence such as rape or being molested. There are people who didn't have a choice in the matter but it doesn't make them any less deserving. Anyhow she made a choice...a poor one but who knows she may be the lady for you and you shouldn't pass her by because you'll never know what your missing... she might be "the one".

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I would say yes. I mean even if you arn't sure she is right for you, you should give it a shot. I am a virgin, and even though getting married to a virgin would be incrediably nice , I do realize it might not be all that practical. If God wants me to get married to someone who isn't a virgin, and I were to just not date them for that reason I might miss out on the person God wants me to spend the rest of my life with. At one point in my life I thought I wanted to only date virgins, but that went downhill fast, and now I will date who ever God brings into my life. Good luck man. God Bless, Kate
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I say go for it! Don't let the past control you in the present. If you do then you're letting Satan win. Maybe this girl is the one God has picked out for you. You'll never know if you don't investigate.

One more thing.. Whatever you do, please don't hold the fact that she's a nonvirgin over her head. I myself am a nonvirgin, and believe me it's not a cool thing to do. That would be like a thief holding a lie over your head. We've all sinned.
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lady of god, I'm not sure what you meen by decent person. I think in most cases someone that does fear God will be a virgin. Marriage is not ultimately about alot of things, but I think some things are hard to compromise what I expect from a possible future wife.
I'm not talking about someone that lost virginity to rape or anything. She could very well be the one, or she could still have the tendancy to sleep around and bring me down too.

mina, I'm not at the point that I love her. And if I did I think it would still be a problem.

christiankate, why isn't marrying a virgin practical? Because there hard to come by or something? I've always thought that God would want me to marry a really moral/virgin girl. However, I understand that you can repent and be moral/kinda pure after they've had sex. If I know for sure someone is brought into my life by God then I'd be fine with it. How can I tell?

Carri20, the past isn't controlling me. It could very well control the girl I'm interested in though. I think I will investigate. If I was going to hold anything over her head, I just wouldn't date her. I know we have all sinned, but this sin bothers me the most.
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