Spanking: Hand or Paddle

Originally Posted by Addicted2~Jesus

Ah, I was missin your point while quotin me. Thanks for clearin that up.

Your Welcome,I hade no idea this tread was 7 years old.Until a few days after I posted.I've never got the spare the rod part in the bible,that's why I always post about it.

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I think spanking is wrong. Be an example, talk to your child. If you can't communicate with your child by talking and explaining, learn more about child rearing.

I agree with LantanaAnna. I never spanked. My children have grown up just fine - A honor roll, no discipline problems, no problems at school.

I can't stand the idea of using a stick to hit your child. The "rod" doesn't have to be a rod - a rod can be any kind of discipline, including time out and grounding.

I think until 4 or 5 spanking is the appropriate form of pnishment. Older children can have extra chores, no phone, TV etc.

Originally Posted by CarrieAg93

I use my hand simply because I'm afraid if I can't feel it I won't know how hard I'm spanking them.

Ha! Wish my father had that idea - his view was if you didnt something wrong to begin with - then by golly it needs to hurt so you wont do it again! Oddly I feel the same now that I have children.

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Originally Posted by The Princess Bride

I think until 4 or 5 spanking is the appropriate form of pnishment. Older children can have extra chores, no phone, TV etc.

Ha! Wish my father had that idea - his view was if you didnt something wrong to begin with - then by golly it needs to hurt so you wont do it again! Oddly I feel the same now that I have children.

Actully I disagree completely, since kids under 4 don't completely understand,or remember what they did was wrong and why, that's why parents should keep telling them what they did wrong and get them away from the situation. Also keeping a kid out of danger,or to keep them out of things, is the best way to deal, with a under 4.

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QFT!

It does matter how old the children are... but in general we have used a "rod" - wooden spoon handle with our 5 children. I've written on the subject on one of my blogs thepfjournal.wordpress(dot)com/2007/08/22/to-spank-a-child-part-1/ I hope it is helpful

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Just some food for thought - The Rod was never used by the shepherd to beat the sheep. The rod was used to drive off predators and beat/kill THEM.

A hurt sheep = lost monetary gain. And with the rules on what is/is not kosher in Scripture - it would not have become food if it was injured.

I would suggest a visit over to Arms of Love Family Fellowship - There is some interesting and very informative information on the rod, use thereof, discipline and how it does not = spanking.

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I would never use an object to spank, you could seriously hurt the child without realising, if you're worried about hurting your hand then you're using excessive force. You shouldn't be willing to hurt your child more than you're willing to hurt yourself. If it's so the child doesn't end up flinching every time you stretch, well, the simple solution to that is, never hit them until you've warned them "I'm going to count to 3, if you don't stop by then then you get a spank". I was hit with a belt as a child and I, to this day, consider it abusive and would never do that to my child. Having said all this, i've decided to stop spanking. I tried it, it made me feel cruel and I've noticed it's taught my son to hit, which he now does, to other people and to me, and I blame myself for teaching him that. I'm not saying I disagree with it or look down on parents that do it, I saying that I won't do it again under extreme circumstances, but it became clear it didn't work for us, and you've got to do what works for you. He's starting less since I've stopped. I find locking him in his room works reaaaally well.

Spanking = adult hitting a child. Legally, it's assault, and recognized as such in many countries.

We tell children over and over lines such as "hands are not for hitting" - yet we justify doing it to them ourselves... such a double standard.

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